The lies they tell and dont make sense

I'm 47 and have never had the need to use the phrase "pathological liar" until I realized my N was an Narc/Psychopath. They lie about everything = it doesn't matter what. But the lie that made me realize that he was a psychopath was this one: Anyone here on linkedin? Well, one day, N's brother in law showed up on my linkedin as someone I might know. It was the creepiest feeling because BIL "died" 2 years earlier. And I thought "wow, how creepy. I guess once you die, there is no one there to delete your linkedin profile, so you float around in hyperspace forever". Well, I clicked on the profile - there were recent job postings. Freaked me out - I looked him up on facebook - same thing - recent pictures! 2 years earlier, N had called me all "upset" - we talked for hours on the phone about how BIL had died - it was very tragic. Narc told me all of the sad details. But Narc told me what a great big brother he was and how he was going to take care of (financially) the 4 young daughters he left behind. And then the next week, he had to cancel a date since he was going to his BIL's "funeral". And y'all - this isn't coming out of the month of some creepy, spooky looking psychopath. This is coming from the mouth of an incredibly gorgeous and fit man who has been CEO at many great companies. It is very spooky how they can hide like this - and we get blind-sided by it!

My NH out of state OW thought he was delployed for their entire 18 month relationship; all the while he was living a big fat lie with me. He bought that poor woman and engagement ring and had her hire a realtor and start looking for the house they would live in when he returned from Iraq and they were married. Forgot to tell her about his wife, and his military committment in another State. He never gave a thought to what would happen to her in the long run. They are like gold fish; other people only exist when they are directly interacting with them. Otherwise, they are just dolls on a shelf, waiting to be taken down and played with when the N get bored or lonely. SA

They don't seem to think through what crap comes out of their mouths! Mine tried to tell me that he didn't get someone pregnant while still married to exW even though I presented him with the dates everything happened! He tried to tell me I wasn't adding 9 months correctly!! In between his lies he actually mocked me with what he was about to do to me I thought he was joking!!! I called him out on so many lies and the more I did the nastier he got Xx

You are treating this as if you are dealing with normal .. He's not normal.. They lie because they live in a grandiose fantasy world..they lie so much it becomes their truth. Remember OJ Simpson.. Did he kill Nicole?. Hunter

Mine lied about everything. His past, his money situation, his friends, his work...everything. As I gradually found everything out he turned into Mr Nasty. Do you know what? If he had been honest with me from the start about the fact that he had nothing then I probably would have loved him just the same. Sad little man. It still amazes me now as I remember things he lied about. I remembered the other day about a time when he took me round massive houses that were for sale and told me that one of them would be our home when we moved. The truth is that we sold my house, moved, rented a house (only for a year so that we could find our dream house -yeah yeah yawn!!!) and then I found out about his massive debts and the lies about his business. Result.....no nice home of our own, I live in rented now and he lives in a new batchelor pad in the centre of the city, living the good life and he moved me away from everything I knew. These guys are vile!! and.....relax. Big hug xxx

OMG my EX Narc told me dandy tangled webs of lies too and I called him on them more and more, especially after we broke up! He would still lie and that is when I started dropping bombs on his life! It was great! He still had the nerve to tell me he was having surgery the Friday before Christmas to remove a tumor between his shoulder blade and left lung. He was back to work the Monday after Christmas doing paper work, because he emailed me, and back to work doing adjustment the next day! He is a Chiropractor, you wouldn't be able to do that! I researched it even online and someone is out of work for 6 to 8 weeks min.! My gf didn't believe his story so she called his office to make an apt. with him for that Tuesday and would have had no problem getting in! That's how we found out for sure! He told me he was first starting back that Thurday, but it was still to soon! When I question him, he said he had a long day and was going home for the day, that he had over done it. The following week he told me he had a needle biopsy and I asked why, when you just had surgery. In one hours time from his office he emailed me to make me feel bad and said "Thanks for your concern!" when I hadn't emailed him back yet...I told him I had texted him because I had thought he was at his apt., but anyways in that hours time he emailed me, drove to the apt., had the biopsy with general anesthetic, got the results and drove back to his office and emailed me to be snide and said "See I knew it was benign! I looked at the time of the emails...yes he thinks I am that dumb!!!!!

Just curious...did you befriend the OW? Just wondering how you found out she was lied to, also. And they lie because they don't like who they really are.

He can't help but lie. He has conditioned himself for many years. He couldn't tell the truth if it sat on the tip of his nose. He may also believe his own lies. The bottom line, he doesn't care if he gets caught in a lie. He views people beneath him and does not believe anyone would question his royal highness. And if they do, he just doesn't care. No egg on his face.........he is after all, the greatest man on the planet.