Letting his family go

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#1 Dec 11 - 7PM
jjj1984
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Letting his family go

XN had a wonderful family. I loved them, his mom and dad were people I cared about and respected very much. They were everything I could have ever hoped for in a second family, I often wonder now if they were a pull that kept me in the relationship when I knew I needed to be out. His mom defended me, and would call Him out on his bad behaviour. His dad would give him advice and point out how insensitive he could be, although he only knew a fraction of what was actually going on. Regardless, I really appreciated that support - part of me wishes I had opened up to his mom about what was really going on while he and I were together.

It's difficult to stomach that post D&D he's likely told them I'm crazy, and left out all the details about what actually happened at the end of our relationship and how awful he was to me. I remember the things he used to tell me about his ex - poisoned her reputation, and because he's perfected his charismatic image, everyone believes him. I think his parents know better, at least on some level, so I can take comfort in that.

I know that his true self is slowly being exposed to his family. I know that they are aware that SOMETHING is wrong, they just don't know what. I feel for his parents, they've been struggling with him his entire life.

I guess the point of this post and what I'm trying to get out is how difficult losing the family can be. No goodbyes, no explanations, just like everything else he ripped it from under me. Heart wrenching at times.

I miss them now more than ever, the holidays were always such a fun time with his parents. I will have to focus on myself this year and developing new fun times and take peace that at least I'm away from him.

Dec 13 - 5AM
Trixy
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I hear you jjj

Dec 11 - 10PM
Brandnewme
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They created him...

Dec 12 - 7AM (Reply to #4)
jjj1984
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The one I guess negative

Dec 11 - 8PM
Willow
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It hurts to let people you

Dec 11 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
jjj1984
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Thanks Willow. Your words