Yeah Redhead, I'd like to know what that means too. When I asked him flat out if he was seeing somebody, his reply was "Yes, but that doesn't change things with us". That was similar to what yours said to you. What DOES that mean? Anyone????
Mine said something pretty similar. After he told me about taking his old GF to the party where she became his new GF and he posted it all over FB, I asked him if he had sex with her. He kept denying it at first, but I KNEW he did even without him admitting it. He kept saying, "Why? Would it make any difference? Would you quit talking to me? I don't think you would! So why would I tell you and hurt you?" What an ego! The arrogant bastard was so sure I would continue talking to him everyday like we always did, in spite of the fact that he betrayed me and was pursuing a new relationship.
But YES, narcface, it WOULD make a difference!!! And YES Assclown, I WOULD stop talking to you!!!
Smitten, yours surely IS an arrogant bastard.
OMG they're sickening.
YES HE IS an arrogant bastard! And why wouldn't he be? I was soooo good at giving him the supply he needed, his ego was pretty damned inflated by the time he was done with me. And he was so good at manipulating me and extracting more whenever he needed it, so he knew he had me wrapped around his finger. BUT, he overestimated himself and underestimated me. In one of our post-breakup texts, he said even if he and the new GF didn't work out, we wouldn't get back together. Really? As if he was calling the shots on that! I said, "What an ego you have! I would never take you back after what you've done to me, and knowing what you're capable of, I would never let you hurt me that way again!"
Smitten wrote: he overestimated himself and underestimated me
Smitten, you are so right. I love that and I feel the same way.
This is my last post tonight, but Smitten, thank you for making my last thought tonight a good one.
Sleep well.
xo V.
Well, I am the cake and he gets none. Wonder how he would feel with that line thrown back in his face. They are just weird. A normal person wouldnt even say that, much less believe it.
LOL too funny, yeah we tried the friends thing too..after no contact, then he said i was taking our relationship too seriously cause i wouldn't talk to him, so I thought we could try the friends thing. Sad thing is he did so much for me (and my kids) during a difficult time that i thought he was the perfect man, all along doing it to feed his ego! well as friends I kept it that way and kept our time together short and more like an acquaintance. He came and did tons of work at my house, that i didn't ask him to do, and thought I would fall back into his arms..not quite. All along he was seeing someone else too, anyway after 6 months I gave in to him to have some amazing sex and nice vacation..but now back to no contact..hopefully this time for good! With the support of this forum now : ) I am the one who will do the D&Ding!!
"Sad thing is he did so much for me (and my kids) during a difficult time that i thought he was the perfect man, all along doing it to feed his ego!"
OMG, YES, YES, YES!!!! Mine fed into my kids too. After only 15 months of their dad passing, he TOTALLY locked into my kids and their interests. In restrospect it was TOTALLY to feed his own ego.
These people stop at nothing. And now he's giving ME the silent treatment?!?!
Friggin people, narc or not at this point, NEVER cease to amaze me.
So true, still tried to suck me back in with all his money and vacations, shopping, concerts. They totally suck!! and suck the life right out of us without any regard to our feelings. UGH
Thank goodness I only got the silent treatment for bits and pieces a while back but he came crawling back a few days later or would manipulate me with txts telling me I needed to apologize to him for hurting him! OMG are you kidding me!! I did nothing wrong and told him to Bite Me, that was NEVER going to happen!!! amazing how they twist everything to be our fault! He never did anything wrong! the texting of other woman, disappearing for hours, not reachable during certain times...oh yeah.....he was perfect.
I just wish I was strong enough to be his friend and throw it back at him. I have a girlfriend who divorced her Narc and is friends(as well as you can be friends with a narc) with him. She just takes what she needs from him and goes on about her business. They have been divorced for a year tho. She straight up tells him, they are nothing more than friends. She is strong like that. He is getting his meaness slap right back in his face. She has even told him he does not control her no more.
Yeah Redhead, I'd like to
OMG!
But YES, narcface, it WOULD
YES HE IS an arrogant
Smitten wrote: he
veronrose
Yep, used, I think you're
Well, I am the cake and he
I'm with you Redhead....I am
Wow Ditto!!!!!!!
"Sad thing is he did so much
Never cease to amaze me
I just wish I was strong