K. I am confused. Which camp do I belong to?
K. I am confused. Which camp do I belong to?
Ok. So I am really confused about "camp 1" and "camp 2".
This is why I am confused.
I did have a "damaged" childhood. Short version: My mother was a single parent. She had many boyfriends that took priority over me. She drank alot. My father was a dead beat. I met him 2 times in my life, last when I was 15 years old and he told me he did not want a relationship with me.
So....when I was seventeen, I met a guy. An asshole. He was emotionally and physically abusive almost from day one. I stayed 7 years, married him, and then I finally got strong and left.
I can totally see how my childhood conditioning and lack of a father etc got me into that one. Defintately part of camp 2 there!
The thing is, I did work on myself. I am successfull in my career, have close friends, a great relationship with my small family - even my mother now. I have my shit together.
When I met the last N - he did NOT present himself as an abuser. He seemed very sincere, very honest, very sweet, always reliable with dates and returning calls etc - the complete OPPOSITE of my first abuser.
THAT is what attracted me to him. I honestly thought he was a decent guy. I knew my firs abuser was wrong and unhealthy and not normal and I thought this new guy was healthy. So, I guess what I am saying is that if I was still a camp 2 person - why would I have been attracted to someone that was the complete OPPOSITE of the treatment I was used to? Does that make sense?
When the little blips/red flags in his behaviour started, I was already "under his spell". He was a great manipulator - as they all are.
Anyways, I am just confused by this all!
Any thoughts?
Thanks all for the responses
Staying Strong
No need to belong to either camp!
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"The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran
"That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung
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Klarity Belle
Camp 1 or Camp 2?
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