Is it really the Narc's fault? Or ours?
Is it really the Narc's fault? Or ours?
I am posting this to give strength to everyone who is struggling with Cognitive Dissonance!
I disconnected myself by loving myself more! I drew strength from myself in knowing that "I am going to be okay". So I got involved with Narcs. I have forgiven myself and the key was acceptance. Accepting the emotional and verbal abuse that my ex Narcs put me through. Was it all their fault? I have accepted that it is not all their fault! I ALLOWED IT! Once I accepted that and quit blaming them...I grew stronger and looked into myself, did hypnotherapy to deal with my demons in my subconscious, and have emerged stronger than I have ever been!
So about a week ago, my last ex Narc contacted me. I hesitated to answer his call. Nonetheless, I did, and agreed to meet him. During the course of our meeting. My mind was more in tune with analyzing him. It was quite the eye opener! It was like watching a spoiled child. He tried all the things in the past that would get my sympathy. I read him like a book! It was quite amusing to say the least...I am still just shaking my head wondering what the hell did I see in him? I can do soooo much better! He is now someone else's problem...not mine!
I accepted and forgave myself for the abuse I allowed! But no more! I love myself and feel so EMPOWERED now that I have won! He can no longer abuse me because I won't allow it! I am in control of my life and emotions..not him!
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That would require an ounce
That's great news! I applaud
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Jackie
Forgive yourself is key to a healthy you!
cruelty is the responsibility
There will always be abusers!
true jackie
Responsibility vs. Acceptance
Wonderful
Boundaries
Jackie
Ruby01
Wow, Jackie, that is awesome!
NarcJunkie
Learn!
Great Article
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