is it possible to loose the attraction to N
is it possible to loose the attraction to N
I think that I have.
as some of you know...N was involved in a project with me...well that is finally going to start soon. I have been distant.. but civil to be able to finally get this done and over with ...he does not affect me any more.
what I have realized though is that I am not really attracted to him any longer. I saw him standing next to a younger guy and thought what the heck did you ever see in N.
He tried to be schmoozy with me and it did not work..even a tad flirty it did nothing... tired to make me laugh...and he couldnt.
what I think happened is when N distanced himself and created all his stupid rules... I grew tired of it... and in away moved on...then when I finally did this and could careless if we talked. i gained some healing there as well.
I think somehow deep down I must have moved on.from the physical attraction.
I also realize now I dont think it is N i miss...it is having someone at the level he used to be(before he morphed into what he is now)
things were once good with N and I...but once he changed the rules... I think I lost the physical attraction to him
also oddly I am not even sure I was ever physically attracted to him- it was what we had when prior to him dictating when we talked etc.
that is what I do miss though... what he was before... which I know was just fake. I miss that closeness I thought that we had.
So, I guess this is all part of healing...realizing I am no longer physically attracted to him.
in a strange way I thank him although will never tell him for changing.
his late nite calls have been replaced with calls to a girl friend of mine.... the day time chats are replaced with chats with other friends. I no longer look for emails that wont be sent etc.
I dont think he realizes any of this of course. that by him distancing... I lost intrest...is that even possible??
Oh and most of all I grew tired of being the OW of him lying about even something as simple as our friendship...
if anyone has any insight on the above..would be glad to hear it.
Don't know if I really was attracted-- how did this happen?
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