It Is Not Our Fault
It Is Not Our Fault
Its NOT our fault. What happened to us was not within our control. We should never feel ashamed for loving someone. We had no knowledge that we fell in love with a Narcissist. None of us. By the time we became aware of this we were already in the throws of the abuse cycle. Brainwashing was set in place. We didnt know this at the time. This is the damage that is left when someone is abused. We didnt ask for it, deserve it, or have any knowledge that it was even happening till the end. People from all walks of life fall prey to these monsters. The educated, the beautiful, the strong and the needy. They do not discriminate on their victims.
We all have beaten ourselves up for allowing this to happen when in fact, we had no power or control. From the first encounter the brainwashing commenced. If any of us had known at that time what was about to take place we all would have ran like hell.
In stead of looking at your experience as one of defeat. Try looking at it as one of victory. He has not won! He was the catalyst that brought you to a new you. The Narcissist has no hope. They will forever remain lost and empty. However, You are the work in progress. You are learning new things everyday about yourself that will carry you through to a new and improved life. There is so much more for you to learn and see about yourself. Life is an exploration of oneself. Your on a journey that has big plans down the road in store for you. Embrace it, welcome it and rejoice in the end when arrive at your destination. You will be so surprised to find out what is yet unfold. You are a miracle in the works.... It is happening to all of us as we speak.
If i could fast forward and show all of you a side by side view of your life and their life in 5 years, you would all drop to your knees in laughter. Its not a magical thinking, its reality. All the fancy cars, homes, lovers in the world cant give you what you obtaining at this very moment, peace, happiness and oneness with self. The narc will never have it, and if they knew you were on this quest to achieve this they would be envious beyond belief! They always want what they cant have you know.
So i have rambled enough for today. Im thinking of all of you this weekend and and sending lots of love your way. Stay strong and resolved to your mission. Your closer than you think...xooxo
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)