Isnt it a little bit unfair

Nah, they have nothing truley meaningful in their life. We may feel pain that they don't but we also feel happiness and love....they never will. Imagine wandering around aimlessly, constantly looking for someone or something to fill a void. Never really feeling happiness or love. I think it's sad. They are empty.

It is odd. My ex goes on about how nobody is into him. And I'd be like, are you kidding?! He has very beautiful, talented, and sweet women by the dozens flocking to his every move. He responds.. "yeah, but non of which I want." So he sleeps with him, keeps them as constant admirers, but would never get into a relationship with them. he dangles all over his FB that all he wants is love, and kids. These chicks eat it up. Myself included.

It is unfair, but I guess that is what separates the HUMANS FROM THE INHUMANS, would you rather be living or existing with a false mask???

If we can identify one positive thing about all of this its that we have learned and grown from this agony, and we are better people because of it. After all what doesn't kill us makes us STRONGER. I agree that none of it is fair, the therapy that we go through forever it seems, all the while they call US crazy because we are "getting help"! My ex narc has had three wives, all of them beautiful and very sweet and loving. He used us all up and now if you were to ask him about us he wouldn't have one decent thing to say about us. Mine tried to poison my view of his ex wives from the start, but now I have talked to them in depth about their relationship with him and we are all alike, GREAT women. We all loved him with everything we had and would have done anything for him. I almost died for him when I tried to overdose on pills because I couldn't take the pain anymore. It kills me to think that I did that, but I did, and it was not because I was crazy I know that now. Just remember though that even though what we went through and are still going through isn't fair, at least we can feel, we have hearts, we have real friends, they are empty and can not ever be at peace with themselves.

It's very unfair...How do they do this? They are masters of disguises. It is NOT about love for them - or whether they love themselves or not... They do idealize love and fantasize about it, but are incapable of it. It's all a game to them and THAT IS IT. The bigger the challenge, the more exciting the chase is for them. Their goal is to seek and destroy. These guys can mold themselves into any body we want them to be. They study us and mirror us and charm the hell out of us. The greater the gal, even better! They will go to great lengths to catch us in their trap. Once they conquered us, game over. D&D. So, it's not about self love or true love. They don't give a rats ass about that. It's only a fun game to them. It is VERY VERY sad because we all got screwed.