Innocent normal male friendship Vs a Narc

Quick question...How does a normal male friendship address's his female friend? How or what does that look like?

I may be a little paranoid and it’s been awhile since I’ve hung out. I know I have serious things to address; however, I’ve re-connected with a friend I ran into at the store who I haven’t seen in three years. The previous five years we have been friends and he has never crossed boundaries, never pushed his way into my married life and just a good person over all. Well, he says during our conversation what happened to me? I’m trying to figure out what is he talking about so I pretend to know until I could figure out what the heck he was talking about. He replies, “it’s been 3 years since we’ve spoken and you disappeared. You never called me, no anything.” I replied, “ Life, marriage and busyness” Also, I mentioned that I’ll do better as he is not the only one getting on me about my isolating myself. Here’s the question, how show male friends address female friends? He call’s me babes, Baby, and etc. My mind is spinning b/c I’ve been reading on this website and it appears that this common among Narcs to call their interest.

So you see I’m a little paranoid to talk to my friend who has been nothing but a friend yet he never called me these names and the fact he was so on point as when the last time we spoke. That comes across eerie to me yet I don’t want to ill treat him in any way if this is what male friends call women these days. I’ve been married to my S2BXNH for 20 years and haven’t had much conversation with the opposite sex. It’s just crazy that I think about this web every time he calls me a name that I’m associating with narcs. Is this the norm now? Also, I suggested to him to hang out in-order to get reacquainted and then I quickly said oh, I’m sorry I have plans with my girlfriend and he replies. (laughing) I’ve been replaced! (laughing). He is an airline pilot and in these few short days he manages to tell me his schedule and he'll call and never follows through as I don't expect him to b/c he doesn't owe me anything. We're acquaintances/friends from years ago.

This may be small and petty but I understand I’m soon to be single and I need to make sure I don’t assume or lump the innocence with Narcs if this is common. I'm concentrating on getting myself whole yet I don't mind having simple male friendships in my life as I have female friendships. I believe this is making me a little paranoid. We live in the South.

I apologize ahead of time as I don’t know which post to go under to find this information quickly. Thanks

…any help or perspective on friendship with the opposite sex is appreciated

L2A