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I'm sure he's left me for a female Narc!?

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#1 Apr 6 - 5PM
JMi
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I'm sure he's left me for a female Narc!?

My Narc has left me for one of my friends who i have known for 3-4 years. She was a work collegue to start off with and then we got to know eachother on a social level too

Until i found this forum i had never heard of BDP/Narcs but since reading through Shari's site that was on a link here i'm pretty sure he has left me for his female equivalent also!!

She is majory image obsessed, obtains/drops friends or Boyfs on a noticeable yearly cycle, has major jealousy issues, schemeing as hell, lies and conceals........ I also think she got close to me so that she could step into my shoes...literally!!!

They are currently living together from day zero he has had a tattoo done of her on his arm ( day 28 ) and now declaring they've found the 'one' in eachother and that this was meant to be ( day 65 )

He only got married to me 115 days ago!!!

Apr 6 - 7PM
sara-smile
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JMi

I'm sorry you are going through this BUT GOOD FOR THEM! They can torture the hell out of each other and leave us normal people alone! :)
Apr 7 - 9AM (Reply to #7)
Susan32
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I thought the same thing...

"Leave us normal people alone!" That's what I thought when one of my friends suggested that the ex-Psych prof's girlfriend was as narcissistic as him. She would've been more his match than I. In a perverse way, two Ns are far more compatible than a Narc with a normal person. Sometimes I wonder if the late Elizabeth Taylor, who passed away recently, was an N... because Richard Burton definitely was (and an alcoholic to boot) Elizabeth&Richard were famous for their public fights during the production of "Cleopatra",then engaging in impassioned make-up sex. She married 8 times. When the ex-P married his girlfriend, she made him take on her maiden name along with his surname. She was a career woman... I don't think she went for being a housewife.
Apr 6 - 8PM (Reply to #6)
Hunter
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JMI/Sara

You took the words out of my mouth! Who will win?? or who will leave first. Idealk
Apr 6 - 7PM (Reply to #4)
JMi
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Sara you don't know how much

Sara you don't know how much i am praying for that outcome!! I have noticed that gradually over the last 11 years i did start to show some of his disgusting behaviour too u know and i can't believe now i'm out of it that i did this - only small things like the way he used to avoid family gatherings and birthdays and such - i think it was acting out to justify his shitty behaviour and make it look normal!! Never again - i know who i am and i love celebrations he's the empty shell who has no spirit!!!
Apr 6 - 7PM (Reply to #5)
sara-smile
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JMi

I have thought about that a lot lately too! I behaved like him at times and it makes me SICK! I lied for him and made excuses for him! UGH! He drinks A LOT and I enjoy a drink every now and then but when I was with him I drank all the time! We never went anywhere that we weren't drinking! I haven't had much to drink since December and I don't miss the hangovers! He was much better at it than I was so he never suffered the next morning! LOL Keep praying and I will too that you get that outcome. Think about it though.......2 Narcs!! That house would be HELL to live in! They will eventually beat the hell out of each other or their egos will clash and it will end. (God help us they'll be back out looking for supply again!) Stay strong and keep repeating that last line to yourself!
Apr 6 - 6PM
gettinbetter
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BPD and Narcs are a match

BPD and Narcs are a match made in hell. If I am being honest when I am with Narcs I exhibit alot of BPD characteristics. Its crazy. I know Im not but I did read that some may have those tendencies and a Narc will bring them out in a big way. I have done some crazy ass things when I have been with him.
Apr 6 - 6PM
Susan32
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Sometimes Narcs end up with each other...

Once, I met the LDR girlfriend who moved in with the ex-Psych prof. She dressed like him, she looked like him... right down to the crew cut. I don't know if she knew about the emotional affair he had with me, or that I didn't know she existed. I don't know if she was as normal as I was.. and brainwashed as I had been. I don't know if she was a Narc like him... I only met her once. Secretly, I wished she was a Narc so she wouldn't suffer like I did. The sayings that Narcs hate each other, or that the stink would be too much if they lived together, are fallacious. BOTH of my maternal grandparents were Narcs. Juan and Eva Peron were Narcs. Narcs don't always brainwash normal people into having relationships with them... sometimes they find equally Narc-ish mates.