an 'i'm sorry' would help so much
an 'i'm sorry' would help so much
I was just thinking. My X before the N, was abusive. We were really young. He was a really bad alcholic, cheated and hit me. You know what? We are bet friends now. He says things like 'I feel like I primed you for this asshole, and I'm going to spend the rest of my life making up to you how bad I was to you. I'm so sorry'. He says he tried to do something to make up for it every day of his life. He's always there for me, takes me out, and tells me I'm a great person. Being with an abusor is a bad thing. But you know what? There is even a huge difference in someone who is an abusor and someone who is a N abusor.
After my husband beat me with a belt for hours, the next morning i went up to him with tears in my eyes and showed him the bruises. He looked at me in digust and went on getting dressed for work. He told my friends 'She beat the door down, so i must have wanted more'. He refers to that as 'the worst night of his life'.
He's never sorry. He'll appologize occasionally, then all is supposed ot be forgiven. if it's not, he gets angry.
this is what prevents me, personally from having closure. I can't fucking forgive what he did to me. He goes around saying 'see, i left her! she was crazy'. My x says i am an amazing beautiful person and nothing is wrong with me. that gave me peace, closure, and the ability to forgive and feel free. they fucking rob us of that. My X was abusive, and I can move on after 8 years with him being abusive so easily. just because of the simple phrase 'it wasn;t your fault' being uttered. he is now with someone else, and guess what? tried not to repeat the same patterns!! Our N's will...
Just needed to say that. you guys feel the same way?
about appologies
sorry can be just a word
Believe in yourself!
Terri
Its impossible for them to
I got what seemed to be a
Your quote:
HOW ABOUT THIS, INSTEAD?
LML
i dont want to forgive him.
But....
LML
Hi - YEs, i relate
LML
saying sorry
bull-shit appologies
And what if you do? What
Nice Girl Syndrome
ahahahahaha they wanna fuck
Thankyou
Oh yes
happynow
Believe in yourself!
Terri
terri