im so happy. Ding dong the witch is dead!!! - the things I wont miss!

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#1 May 10 - 11AM
Qing Yuan
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im so happy. Ding dong the witch is dead!!! - the things I wont miss!

I cant help smiling.
I am finally gona get shot of the narc!!!
He is going to live with OW...
Was I gutted when I first foudn out???
Yes, but now I see it as ticket to freedom...

I hope she can stand it when he unleashes all of the below, cos I couldnt...

these things I wont miss.

the cold shoulder.
the freeze outs
the black unexplained moodiness
the attacking conversation
the belittling of my oppinions
the analytical picking apart of my words
the overly demanding attention seeking of his conversation (monologues)
the confrontational debateing of every little detail of everything
the round and round and round in circle arguments
the wierd arguments where his argument is confusing, erronous and totally unstable, and yet he is NOT wrong at all... very annoying and frankly just plain wierd!!!!
the lack of emotional engagement in anything I say or do or feel or think
the thing where he says... 'not your feelings again'....
The lack of touch and affection
the sound of his voice in full flow of 'me, me, me'
the nasty antagonising contempt in his voice when he calls me a bitch or or cow
the lack of listening
the lack of empathy
the pot smoking
the subjugatory rough sex
the lack of love and kindness
I especially wont miss the very poor manners and doors being let go in my face
ThankGOD.
I rejoice, the narc has left the building.
I get my keys back on Friday, my deadline!!!!

I am happy and as a sand man..
xxx

May 10 - 2PM
nancyh
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Qing

I am happy for you - though I do not relish the OW and the hell she is sure to endure . . . .

Nan

May 10 - 1PM
dudette
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it will sound strange but

I wish I had experienced those, it would make the Cogdis easier.... as an unknowing OW, I actually have never experienced the majority of these although I would have been next in line... had I not walked out on him fairly quickly... However everything that his ex says correlates to everything you ladies also say....and I believe her....
May 10 - 11AM
Steph
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What? I don't understand why

What? I don't understand why you wouldn't miss those things! haha Good for you! Stay strong and stay happy:) xoxo
May 10 - 11AM
Hunter
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He'll be back ! Enjoy it

He'll be back ! Enjoy it while it lasts! Hunter
May 10 - 11AM
spinning
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Quin, I rejoice with you!!!

and say it's about TIME! You have been to hell and back with this disordered beast. Since you've kicked off a great REALITY CHECK list, I may as well share all the things I don't miss and rejoice about daily: The freeze outs The secrecy The lies The manipulations The false illnesses to get me back in line The stupid marathon sex The weird fetishes The push/pull The black rages His ugly shaved head His affected way of talking The fake "gentleman"...ha, that's a good one. I had black and blue marks to show what a gentleman he was... His inability to hold a job His always being broke Jumping through hoops to please him Black was white and white was black The ever-changing rules Swallowing my feelings to "keep the peace" HA, another good one! His extreme moodiness His self-abuse to deflect what was really going on The lies The secrecy The manipulations... YEAH!!!! THE WITCH, WIZARD AND WOLF LAY IN A SMOKING HEAP AT MY FEET!!! Cheers to us all and especially to you Quin Yuan, hugs from spinning (just a little with anger today but still determined to stop)

spinning

May 11 - 2AM (Reply to #2)
Qing Yuan
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one text book narc after another...

the lies... the fetishes THE UGLY SHAVED HEAD!!!!!!!! I think his clippers had more a relationship with him that I did!!!! the fake gentleman!!!!! oh yes this one, when they put on the manners. mine use to spk softly and clal me by my full name when he was in this fake mode... so annoying. jumping though hoops to please him and gain 'APPROVAL'... why did we do it, what was missing in us that made us do that? The self abuse... yep, cant admit that pot smoking is bad for him.. thinks it 'holy'.. doesnt relaise its a crutch and he is hiding behind it... Infact he started going for runs.. and had a pipe before he did... Ha ha. how rediculous!!!! extreme moodiness... Our narcs are textbook to a tee!!!! Well not 'ours' exactly... Not anymore!!!!! x Love to you spinning. We will survive and we will have happy safe secure kind love!!!!! x
May 11 - 9AM (Reply to #3)
spinning
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Thank you, Qing,

It's amazing, isn't it! I am already getting better. Good things are happening after six months one week NC. I cannot wait for what is in store with this new found FREEDOM! We will survive and be happy, healthy and loved! I hope we can drink a toast together one day! Love to you Qing. You've been to hell and back and you're on the way up, up, up!!! Most sincerely, (not) spinning ...THE SUCKA DIDN'T TAKE ME DOWN!

spinning