I'm scared and shaking. Please advise.

I know exactly how you feel. If I heard from mine I would be fearful, too. But, they are big bullies, you blocking him and letting him know it's over, hopefully that will be the end

Maybe when he gets to zero...he'll blast off to another planet. lol :P What a weirdo! I am so tired of their games. I am sorry he still shakes you up...but we all have been there. At some point, you just have to shut it out. Block him out. Whatever that means in your life. I also have found that I need to block out people who remind me of him, or who were in my life BECAUSE of him. It sucks, but such is life with these types. Praying for you to be ok, safe and at ease very soon. {{hugs}}

I think the "power" of the narc rests in our heads once we decide to go NC. Can they be violent, yes...can they be abusive - absolutely - BUT for the most part, they are cowards, they only have power over us when they sense we are fearful. Narcs supposedly are so much more obsessed with their IMAGE for all their "grandiose power trips" they're chickens when it comes to the threat of using the Law against them. I wouldn't fear too much. I'd take the natural normal precautions one takes when coming out of an abusive relationship. Of course if we were the first ones to call it quits and they haven't lined up new supply they may hoover a bit, but unfortunately for most NARCS, outta site, out of mind and they usually have a number of supply sources lined up anyway. The key here to remember is those in their web are OBJECTS so their hoovering or trying to terrorize you back into the web has nothing to do with love but power and control. When you show you are not afriad...NC and if necessary ONE response which would be in writing clearly outlining your wish for NC then you stick to it - it kinda makes them aware you are creating a paper trail. Only you know how dangerous your Narc is, but in my experience, despite how big I made him in my head when I was involved, he could be knocked down with a feather really - they're bullies essentially and it's almost like dealing with a fierce dog. If you show no fear usually you're safe. Do you look for trouble, do you tempt fate, do you play games, do you try to make them jealous....NO you back off you go NC and you make your intentions known up to and including a police report if they don't respect your wishes... AND you do this with no fear or you can be terrorized for life. You show no emotion, you simply come straight out and you say in writing, please be advised I no longer wish to have contact with you, kindly refrain from calling, writing, emailing, visiting whatever you have to outline. He breaks the rule, you take the copy of the letter you sent to the police and you file a report. Let them handle it from there. I would not be afraid...that is what he wants, and your peace of mind and freedom rests on it. This is not legal advice, just advice from someone who's been there. The narc I was with did not hoover or threaten me, but if you read up on them, you will see they are so much into image, they usually don't like to play with the law UNLESS you believe he's a full fledged psychopath then you might have to be a bit clever. If I read your story correctly, he's across the country?

Those emails mean nothing. Its a sick game thats all. Try to remember (this is what I tell myself) If a man loves me, I'll feel loved. I'll feel safe, I'll feel good. I'll feel happy. If I dont feel these things-- it's not right. I'm trying so hard-- but I'm doing it. good luck to you. I'm glad you blocked him.

Glad you have blocked him and have spelled it out to him. Here's hoping he got the message. Hugs xx

Great, What happens when he gets zero! You're shaking over a Fucking Freak? Block his sorry ass, delete him from FB. You need to move on and away from this, I'm sorry, Hunter

they are crazy and i mean that seriously, men and you need to be careful. why not just email him and tell him it is over ,you are moving on and wish him a good life. Then no more contact at all. mine threatened me with calling the police if i ever came onto his property and charging me with stalking and trespassing, nutso...he is playing mind games with you and getting a kick out of it.

Hi adoette I don't know your story but I have not seen the ex to have official break up either just sent messages. You don't say how long you have been NC or what you are afraid of what kind of things you are afraid of? seeing him or violence. Maybe it's the holiday weekend and he will be in town? don't let your mind go to a bad place k have a nice holiday Bada