If you do not like this forum, you do not have to come here.

I speak from my own experience when I say this forum has been more helpful than any other avenue I used to get the sick N out of my life.

I am very grateful for having this place to come whenever I had the overwhelming and unreasonable urge to contact N. If I had that crazy feeling, I would come here to read or post instead.

The positive experience I have had on this forum did not have as much to do with any one individual (the moderator) as it did having a wonderful group of understanding individuals support me and share their own experiences. Whenever I had a problem, or questions, so many of you would respond and write back about your own experiences. It was through your own words that I started to see the truth about my N and could finally stop the cycle, take control and let him go.

This is what a forum is all about. On most forums, the role of "moderator" is to make sure each and all members treat each other with respect and have a chance to share their own viewpoints and perspective in a safe environment. The role of moderator is not to counsel the members.

Each of us has a choice as to what we are going to do about our own healing. If it is a place to talk to others with similar problems, get a supportive ear, or share something of your own experiences this is a good place to come.

If you need therapy, see or talk to a licensed and certified therapist. This board should not be a place for one-on-one counseling.

I am very grateful for what Lisa has done here and am happy to have had a chance to post when I have needed to because all of your responses have been invaluable to me.

Please, let's not ruin it with all this in-fighting. I did not want to get involved with this discussion but have been so disheartened by what I have been reading. I hope Lisa does not get disgusted with all of this and give up on the whole thing, because she has provided us with an invaluable resource.

Please lets start to re-focus on the reason we are here and move on. These negative discussions are divisive and serve no purpose.

Thanks Lisa for everything you have done and continue to do for all who have benefited and continue to use this message board.

-Baddream