I won't talk to OW but I do have a concern

I posted a few days ago about running into a gf at a dance who dated the XNBF before me. He told me he didn't like her but she says she could tell he was too rigid and dumped him. Interesting. Anyhoo, I told her about how he yanked the rug out from under me 2 weeks b 4 I was going to live at the winter place with him. Of course I went into all of the gory details of how he screwed me, psycho boy etc. I had a willing ear & I was drunk. She wants to give my number to her co worker who's a widow & currently dating hollow man. After 4 days of mulling it over, I've decided not to speak to her if she calls me. Just talking about him put me back into a funk & I was doing so well. And we all know how convincing the N can be when they need to protect the false self.

I do have a concern though. Hollow man & I didn't have sex until 4 months into the r/s. We did use protection for the first year. I believed in his love & thought if I'm going to be with him forever, I don't want this barrier between us. So throw out the condoms. Then he told me he has herpes. The ONLY reason he told me was b/c he was having an outbreak & knew I would see it. I didn't get tested right away b/c the state we were in required my name to be put on a register as having an STD. I called my gyno asap & was advised to use the condoms again & get tested as soon as I returned home. Hollow man had the nerve to tell me she didn't know what she was talking about. OH, I forgot hollow man has a doctorate. Not in gynecology, but deception.

Now I wonder, do I have any obligation to share this with this woman? I didn't tell my gf about this. too personal. OW will likely be going to this state with him. I am 100% sure that he's not shared this with her (the info, not the disease). This site and others are designed to help women discover the depths of N deception. Given this N education, a person can either choose to face the truth or remain blind by CD. So is their some responsibility on my part or am I just looking for an excuse to expose him again? Any thought please?