I won't change who I am; just who I allow in my life

I have vowed to never allow myself to be disrespected again, by anyone. New friend, old friend, family member...NO ONE.

This was something that I used to allow, sadly. Perhaps, I didn't respect myself, enough, back then.

But, now I do.

I am no longer angry, sad or mournful over the loss of my ex N and that farce of a relationship. I'm no longer angry, sad or mournful over the new people I've met since him, who show shades of narcissism, either.

Rather, I just have decided to keep my heart and mind open, and if someone shows blatant disrespect, or if what he/she is asking of me, doesn't resonate with my core values? They're out. Not in a mean, take them out to the trash kind of way. lol But, in a ...no contact, not willing to analyze them, move forward to better things, kind of way.

I have grown to trusting people again...and that feels good. Not going to live my life, upset with people who mirrored what I grew up with. They are who they are; I can't change them. Nope, just going to move on, should someone ever treat me like that, ever again.

Thing is, everyone. There are lots of good and not so good people in our midsts. We have a choice. We can try to analyze them, and waste our time, or we can say...nope, not this time. And move on.

Life is short. A friend of mine is struggling with a battle against cancer, as I type this. We have a lot to be thankful for, and I am thankful for this site, the mods, Lisa, and all of you...who helped me get here.

It takes time, this process. I think I've come to the end of it, finally. And that means, that I have come to realize, that I will not change who I am, as an empath. This is a good thing to be, an empathetic soul. But, I have changed in terms, of who I allow to be in my life.

I won't change who I am, just who I'm with.

Just wanted to share my thoughts for the week. :)