I was telling Betty.............

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#1 Oct 1 - 7AM
jaycee
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I was telling Betty.............

I was telling Betty, on one of my posts, that since my hN no longer carries two phones(our family ph line and the one the whore pays for he only uses ours now) suddenly, some of his texts, like the ones that say hey mama, or luv u, come to my phone as duplicate texts, how cringy, he sends her the same text as he sends me, yuk. Im kind of embarrassed for him, like what Im stupid, i dont know what duplicate means, and there are only those that are duplicate, when they say stuff like, youre the best ever or i love you and miss you, those are plain text, not duplicates, but ewwwwwwwwww, thats so cheesy......this guy is a real piece of work, hes so fked up in the head, how does he do it, hes like Houdini, between telling his wife he loves her, misses her, doesnt love the whore, he cant wait to move out of there, telling her he loves her and how happy she makes him, and stringing alone his poor mistress from work, my mind would be spinning, at somepoint, hes gonna slip up big time, hope the whore notices, duplicate, but shes not that smart, so i dont know how he pulls such stunts, i think sometimes hes angry with me, not cause hes fighting with her, but because he knows i know what he is, and that frightens him. he cant stand when i call him out on his bs and lies, so he rages......he also rages when hes under pressure over there, those rages I know, he has different types of rages, the ones where hes raging because hes angry I know him, and those rages he has when hes fighting with her or feeling too much pressure from her. Does anyone but me (i mean the women in his life) have any idea what hes about? do you think they will take twenty four years to figure him out? i cant imagine, although my pain makes me think hes all roses over there, that hes not a fn prick to this douchebag. i cant imagine he doesnt rage there, but it may be possible, that hes not ready to let the mask slip as hes only lived there for six months, but hes getting more and more ornary and sweaty and miserable each week, hes more and more selfish and wants more and more from the world, i dont know, but man, i wish i could pull of his Houdini tricks, and fool the world, its has to be an art form, or something, im convinced, beyond a shadow of doubt, hes a serial killer, hes way too sneaky and creepy at times. I will make you all laugh, true story, about a year before i found out he was cheating in the nineties, my first round of devastation, there had been a serial killer killing hookers down near the beach where his mom lives, well the city around it, i was sooooooo convinced it was him, i almost called the state troopers, i was ready too, but I figured they will catch the sob or whom ever was doing the murders, unfortunately, they accused another guy, but if memory serves, there wasnt enough dna to prove for sure it was this other guy, but i swear, my hN has to be some kind of psychopath rapist or murderer, by the way he acts, its getting creepier and creepier, or im just starting to realize he is a total sociopath with no regard for anyone(i know that, but it takes time to sink in) put it this way, if he were accused of being a serial killer I wouldnt be surprised. i hope i dont sound like a scorned woman, im serious about how creepy he is to me lately.........lol

Oct 2 - 7AM
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creepier than ever

he is creepier than ever, yesterday he came her to see our daughter who has been sick, although he couldnt come to the er as we sat there for twelve hours while she was getting test after test for her kidneys and to find the cause of her infection, kidney infection again, always left kidney, dont know why, but plays the oh so worried father, tells me everything he wants me to hear, as all i heard was charlie brown's teacher on the phone, lol. then this morn the texts started at 4 am but now that i need to go to work and tell him he needs to come here later while im at work to take care of her and make sure shes ok, he cant text back, oh thats right hes out to breakfast with the whore and her kid, as usual. prancing all over town like every saturday, while he would never take me anywhere, for fear one of his affairs would run into us, but he doesnt fear that with her, that makes it all the creepier, obviously he hid me from her, as he must have told her lie after lie after lie to keep her. it never makes sense, he wouldnt leave me for her, yet, wouldnt get rid of her, sometimes i think had i not thrown him out, his chase with her would have either cooled or got too out of control, im just glad to know, he doesnt have to hide her here, since his other affairs are no where near here, his others live outside the area, well like twenty five minutes from here, so no need to hide this whore, but can humiliate me where i live and know everyone. i cringe on saturdays because i know he knows im at work, so he can play the dutiful boyfriend, so funny he wont leave her apt on the days i dont work my parttime job, i wonder if she knows that, come to think of it, its been a long time since hes even gone to dinner with her, maybe he has another one here too, or hes too afraid to loose my supply so he will only go with her when im at my pt weekend job.......oh suddenly it strikes me, shes where i was, and its only been six months.........you guys are always right......the roles are starting to reverse. shes homebase, boy wait till more time goes by, he ll be hiding her in a basement somewhere. lol

Jaycee

Oct 1 - 1PM
ShaynasMommy
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Jaycee

"i think sometimes hes angry with me, not cause hes fighting with her, but because he knows i know what he is, and that frightens him." BINGO!!!!! You are really making some strides, Jaycee. That's exactly how my ex N treated me. He got scared shitless. Tried everything he knew for damage control. He tried to get friends to convince me that he was really a good guy. At the time I was really confused because WTF it was over, he found someone else that was supposed to be making me happy, so why the hell should it matter to him what I thought, right? Now I know exactly why. When he finally realized that I was done with him and his shit he exploded and now I am forever the evil one. Even says so on his FB page. 8 years later. Yeah, he did the stringing, cheating, lying, and dumping. And I'm the evil one. So yes, when they figure out that you know them beyond a shadow of a doubt for what they are, they will absolutely freakin' hate you until the day they die and the only time they will be "nice" to you is when they want to hoover you back for another beating. No, you don't sound like "just a scorned woman." Even though you have every right to feel scorned. I couldn't tell you for sure that my exN is not capable of some really horrendous and illegal shit now, especially since Ive learned that much more about Narcs from this site and have had a few A-ha! moments too. I knew he had the propensity to be violent...he threw several objects in my direction and attempted to punch holes in the walls, so I know given the right circumstances, he would have raised his hand to me. After reading all of the other stories on this site, I now know all of them are capable of violence if they feel like they are backed into a corner. You mentioned something about how it looks like he is getting more demanding and Narc-y in general. Yeah, that's what happens when they get on that high after the breaking point in any of their long-term relationships. They feel like they are the kings of the universe and then they crave more and more. Its never enough. When their suppliers can't keep up with them, then they get bitchy about it and their true colors start to show. That's why everybody around us said look he's lost his damn mind! So, don't put ANYTHING PAST THEM. All the better to get him as far away from you as possible and let OW deal with him. Believe me, on some level, she knows who he is, just not willing to accept it or admit to it. She has to know because of how he played you for so long, I don't care how he painted you as crazy or mean. In the real world, a normal man would not stay for 24 minutes with a crazy woman let alone 24 years. That's what mine tried to convince everyone that I was horrible, but nobody bought that because there was NOTHING holding him to me for 7 years, no kids, property, nothing. He was free to go at any time.
Oct 1 - 3PM (Reply to #4)
jaycee
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shaynasmommy

thanks for the reply, they all have some tendency to get violent, and then calm and then angry and frustrated, mine looks like shit, like hes been sleepless for weeks, dont know what his deal is, but he wants to be here more and more, but still has to hide it from her, instead of saying, thats my family, my daughter needs me and i need to get things done around the house, i do pay for it. hes a ball/less sucker anyway, he couldnt survive telling the truth, it would confuse him, so he prefers to lie and cover things up. he is weird and getting weirder every single day. creepy.........xoxo jaycee

Jaycee

Oct 1 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
ShaynasMommy
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he looks

like shit because like any other junkie its hard on the body when youre addicted to supply, just like any other drug. Only a normal drug addict just has to go to back alley to score his drug of choice, whereas an N....well, you know the great lengths they go to.
Oct 1 - 5PM (Reply to #6)
jaycee
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he looks

shaynasmommy, you are so right, he has to go to such great legnths to cover his tracks and get his supply from several different places, and not to mention all the steroids he has done, he just finished another cycle about six weeks ago, and no one knows what they put in illegal steroids, especially those that his whore has been ordering and buying for him from mexico for the past two years or so. scary, drugs, supply, lies, confusion, it all has to get to someone at some point. he is like a common street addict, he just goes about it in a different way, and its not called coke, or heroin

Jaycee

Oct 1 - 9AM
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Creepy, creepy creepy. All

Creepy, creepy creepy. All the more reason to maintain NC. He will seal his own coffin in the end Jaycee. only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Oct 1 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
jaycee
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creepy, creepy creepy. all

betty, now that is creepy isnt it.........lol

Jaycee