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I was talked into calling my N

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Jul 7 - 2PM (Reply to #12)
rainbow1
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I mean that you let him win

I mean that you let him win in the fact that he got a predictable reaction out of you. Any attention is good attention.

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Jul 7 - 2PM (Reply to #13)
Happy1
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You're absolutely right and

You're absolutely right and that won't happen again. He's a huge jerk that deserves nothing from me.
Jul 7 - 2PM (Reply to #14)
rainbow1
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Amen!

Amen!

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"dont let yesterday take up too much of today"

Jul 7 - 1PM (Reply to #8)
NinjaGirl
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He is such a liar

He's just trying to manipulate you into feeling bad. He wasn't just about to send a note about anything. No more responses, please. No more contact. Imagine he's dead, and you're just getting your stuff back via a friend. I am SO glad you're angry, though! That's a good step.
Jul 7 - 1PM
hopefuljms
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sad1

Of course he told them he cared. If he didn't then everyone would know what a heel he is. I also bet that when you tell people about your N as I did about mine everyone will tell you that they already knew he was a jerk! Mail him back his phone and don't talk to him again. Mine told me he wanted to marry me and all the while he was engaged to a girl 17 years younger than he is. I wish her a ton of luck in August when they get married. Don't fall prey to his crap!
Jul 7 - 1PM (Reply to #5)
NinjaGirl
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Ewww

That's just creepy! He's engaged to another girl and telling you he wants to marry you? Bleah!
Jul 7 - 3PM (Reply to #6)
hopefuljms
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Ewww

Yep, told me, my best friend and one of his really good friends. Kept the 3 year engagement a complete secret from everyone he knew and worked with!!! I sent him a message when I found it out and got no response. That was the end for me!!
Jul 7 - 12PM
rainbow1
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sad1

NOW its done. Its over. Stick a fork in it. PLEASE leave it alone now. Please please please! Dont call him. Dont apologize. Dont beg him to talk to you. Even if this was a normal break up with a normal person I would give you the same advice. It has gone down this horrible road for so long that there is no turning it around and finding your way back to a happier place with him. Even if he were normal you could never trust him or look at him the same. I am sorry that you had to go through this but please let it be now.

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"dont let yesterday take up too much of today"

Jul 7 - 12PM
Happy1
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There was a little good of

There was a little good of good news and that is this couple did look up what a narcissist was and I told her I have to go to a shelter to learn to detox from verbal abuse now. He has hit me a little but the verbal is far worse for me.
Jul 7 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
Used
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sad1

i am sorry to say this but you have to get rid of the couple as well they are part of his life when i divorced my husband and then exn i stopped talking to anyone they i was finshed with them and so i finished with there cohorts, who i now believe all knew the real them, i talk to none of them those parts are over and done with, so are they DONE.