I want to send this to NARC

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#1 Jan 12 - 8PM

Movingforwardnow

I want to send this to NARC

Mark the Narc,

Please leave my family alone...and by family I mean my children, my parents, my brother and MY SISTERS FAMILY! Do not contact my family or my friends ever f-ing again. I do not contact you, your family or your friends...DO NOT CONTACT MINE! My sister will be civil with you when you contact her...because that's who she is, she is nice and compassionate so she will be nice but I am letting you know she does not want to hear from you. She does not like you or respect you and hasn't for a long time. She knows about your sex crap and she knows all the other "relationship secrets" she like me wants nothing to do with you. I realize that you hearing from me right now provides you with your sick and needed supply but it is what it is .... supply or not: leave me and my family the f alone!

#2 Jan 13 - 7AM

Hunter

What sparrow said.. Here's my

What sparrow said.. Here's my short and sweet answer.. Tell your sister never to mention his name to you again.. If she chooses to engage with this Assclown let her..in no time she will figure out what a freak he is.. Let her get her own education.. They treat everyone the same don't kid yourself .. They use and abuse it's their life's work.. Sit back.. And do nothing.. Hunter

#3 Jan 13 - 7AM

janemarie

Did you "get it out" by

Did you "get it out" by writing that and posting it here?? GOOD!!! THATS WHAT WE ARE HERE FOR!!!!! Anytime you wanna say something to him...get it out..but do it here!!!!! I hope you feel better now!!!!

#4 Jan 13 - 12AM

Im_always_fine

That's what you will write

That's what you will write but his magic mind will read," Mark, you GOD! I can't live without you! I'm obsessed with you!! I LOVE you. I'm yours...come get me." DON'T DO IT!!!

#5 Jan 13 - 8AM (Reply to #12)

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Im_always_fine

That just put me in my place. Thanks! Of course that is exactly what he will read....and that just made me want to gag.....

#6 Jan 12 - 9PM

freaked

no no...just burn that

no no...just burn that letter.. we must NEVER try to communicate anything with a Narc. Before you know it, he will use it against you in ways you never imagined. my PERSONAL EXPERIENCES speaking... This happened with NH and with the 2 narc chaps I dated... yikes.. i am BURNED now

#7 Jan 12 - 9PM

I_Dated_Satan

It will do no good

Don't send anything! You can't win with a LOSER! SILENCE=FUCK YOU

#8 Jan 12 - 9PM (Reply to #9)

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I_Dated_Satan

I am not sending it. It just felt good to write out what I wnated to send. he is an ass....he is satan. I am not sending it and I get that if I did it would only be supply. But ick, yuck, he is so manipulative.

#9 Jan 12 - 9PM

Sparrow

Don't do it! Arm yourself

Don't do it! Arm yourself and have your sister do as well. Just IGNORE his attempts. Both of you.........sending him that note gives him supply. You need to understand that. Just let your sister know what you are dealing with and ask her to please not get involved. They are twisted and very manipulative and can cause much trouble via a third party. Continue to read, stay close to the forum, and stay NC, both of you. You will get through it. Honestly, you will.

#10 Jan 12 - 9PM (Reply to #2)

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Sparrow

She doesn't get it. She is still questioning who is telling the truth. He tells her some crap, I tell her some crap that I kept secret for so long. Our stories do NOT add up...ya know what I mean???

#11 Jan 12 - 9PM (Reply to #3)

Sparrow

I know exactly what you mean,

I know exactly what you mean, it's Triangulation. He has already planted the seed of doubt in your sister, if she is already struggling with who to "believe". She is not going to understand completely, unless she herself has walked in your shoes. It is very difficult for someone to actually wrap their head around this whole situation, because it is not the norm in society. Family and friends think that there are two sides to every story, and that both parties play a part in the demise of a relationship, because that is the norm. Unfortunately, that is not the case with the disordered. Don't make the mistake of "shoving" the NPD information down her throat, she will think you are crazy and out of control. The best thing to do is explained to her calmly and logically, that you have discovered within the relationship, things that you don't expect her to understand, but to please respect your wishes, and do not get involved with this man, because it will only make matters worse for you. Remind her that you love her very much and appreciate wanting to help, and the best way to help, is to do nothing at all. If your sister shows an interest in learning about NPD, than slowly introduce her to the information you have gathered thus far. The basics, Narc 101 as I like to call it. She won't be convinced at first, let her come to terms with it on her own, if she can. Don't panic though. Blood is thicker than water, but sometimes, family members get involved and make matters worse because they are trying to help. This man is a menace. He is disordered. And will wreak havoc on who ever he can to get to you or defame you. Continue reading. Knowledge is power! Stay strong my friend!

#12 Jan 12 - 9PM (Reply to #4)

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Sparrow

Last question: sorry to bother you, I know there are many here tonight and everynight who need advice and a I don't mean to monopolize your time....will help to send her these posts via copy and paste?

#13 Jan 12 - 10PM (Reply to #5)

Sparrow

You are NEVER a bother! I am

You are NEVER a bother! I am not sure she would actually understand what all of this would mean without being able to start from the beginning. My family, for instance, use to ridicule me for "losing" my strength and letting this guy get the best of me. They couldn't understand how I "couldn't get over him" and I almost gave up explaining it to them until I started from the beginning. I explained to them that it was no different than someone addicted to drugs,a nd the obsession is part of that of course. It is not as easy as 1-2-3 and proceeded to explain that he had a personality disorder, since they could not relate to the term Narcissist, although most know what it means, they haven't experienced it themselves so they view that term as an adjective, when in actuality, in our case, it is a noun. So, I explained that it would be somewhat along the lines of Bipolar disorder, not that he is, but along the same lines..........than they started to understand somewhat, what I was starting to explain, because the word Bipolar is used much more often, the word struck a chord. I explained that the traits are similar, however, the symptoms differ. Making it not only impossible to have a relationship with them, but impossible to leave them or get over them. As time went on, I would mention things little by little, cautious not to appear obsessed with the topic, and eventually, I found they were actually asking me questions and finding an understanding of sorts for what I was experiencing. I of course, can't say that this approach would work for everyone, but it did work with me. You will find the right way to communicate with your sister. Make sure that all your discussions are done when you are not emotional, excitable, or stressed out. Stay calm when talking with her about it.

#14 Jan 12 - 10PM (Reply to #7)

freaked

Sparrow, you are such an

Sparrow, you are such an inspiration. thanks. agree...nodding my head here.. almost everyone around me, with the exception of myself...called me a loser, a wimp, a crybaby, a paranoid wife, a hopeless gf, a godawful parent.... ooooo the epithets i have received could fill a book of (verse/worse?) love you Sparrow darling.

#15 Jan 12 - 10PM (Reply to #6)

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Sparrow

Thank you!

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