I think he may be gone

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#1 Jun 5 - 6AM
Daisyd
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I think he may be gone

For good. The last time I broke off with him I told him to find a new girlfriend (like he hadn't already) and he said, 'I can do that'. Then I told him there was nothing left for him here, that he had worn me out.

Do you think that's enough to keep him away?? If he thinks he has depleted me??

But he knows how strong I am and that my life has been on an upswing for the last 6 months. Even he has commented on this. I'm going back to school to become a paramedic.

Jun 6 - 7AM
Deidre40
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I agree with Hunter. I'd say

I agree with Hunter. I'd say we need to define ''coming back.'' Mine never left my life. He has remained in 'some' capacity. Now, that he's been banned from that website, which was how he was 'toying' with me as of a few weeks ago, he has no method of contact. Yes, he could text, email or phone. But, he has demanded I cease all communication, (which I have lol) and so reaching out to me will make him look like a fool. But, now, I'm done with that site, as well. I believe he 'used' that website to watch my actions. See if I was going to share anything about him. (I didn't) He would use it to communicate his pot shots or whatever to me. I don't have facebook...so, that's not an option. I also have stopped contact with people who are our mutual 'friends.' As they are not friends at all. They just want free entertainment to see if they can stir shit up between he and I. Nope, not a friend. You're out of my life if you mean to bring me harm or humiliation. But, I have a very good friend who says...he's not done with you. This man is a true psychopath. To the core. No joke. Cold. Calculated. I was nothing more than someone to conquer, in the end. And he succeeded...I guess? lol But, he also shared his feelings of love for me on that website we belong to...and to 'save face,' he would take pot shots at me, talk about all these women he's dating, etc. Right. That said, a true psychopath never can fully let go. He has a lot of control...but he lost control over me. He would rather die than see me happy...or worse yet. Disappear, off his radar screen. Do I think he'll ever want me back? I don't know. But, the good news is...I no longer care. ;) Daisy--live your life. Enjoy it. I'm sooo thrilled for you, that you are in a happy place now. Stay there. Be alert, though, for if he does ''come back,'' you'll need to stay strong. {{hugs}}
Jun 6 - 7AM (Reply to #13)
Susan32
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Burning bridges

The ex-Psych prof would look like a fool if he reached out (plus he's paranoid). It's like he was on a path of self-destruction with me... if he had lost his job on account of his behavior, he would've been able to pull the victim act, and move on. He endangered his career... he could've moved on to a new job or simply be unemployed and do the "POOR ME" routine :0 But no. He's stuck at a place where he's burned his bridges. His colleagues remember the ugliness of the final D&D... it was THAT public. It's not like he's working with people who don't remember what he's done, or weren't there. IMHO he wanted to burn his bridges&move on... instead, he burnt his bridges, got tenure, and is stuck. I see tenture as punishment, NOT a reward, in his case.
Jun 6 - 7AM
wacaet
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I think mine is gone for

I think mine is gone for good, too. Even if he isn't, I am! No matter what he does or doesn't do, I do not have to respond or react in anyway.
Jun 5 - 2PM
Susan32
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What a coward

I don't think the ex-Psych prof will come back... unless he enjoys being an OBJECT (emphasis mine) of ridicule. If he wants to be a punchline in a comedy routine... then that's up to him. Besides, he's scared of people laughing at him... and I haven't helped that one bit. It's like I took his paranoia over ridicule&stuck a fork in it till it was done.
Jun 5 - 2PM
NinjaGirl
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Mine is gone for good. I

Mine is gone for good. I know he's never coming back. He knows that I see the truth about him now, and to be honest, he's scared of me. He knows I'd tear him apart if he even came near me. Plus my mom might literally kill him.
Jun 5 - 1PM
Hunter
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They never go away. Hunter

They never go away. Hunter
Jun 5 - 2PM (Reply to #8)
Susan32
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Unless you play with them

The ex-Psych prof was kinda freaked when I played the same games on him (the senior skit mocks the professors, and when it ridiculed him-he RAN OUT), and relished it. A Narc doesn't especially like it when you get your jollies out of dealing them *INTENTIONAL* narcissistic injuries. The minute you objectify THEM-they really don't know what to do.
Jun 5 - 2PM (Reply to #7)
onwithmylife
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Hunter

I have a different opinion from yours,, i believe if you find them out or call them as you see it, they will disappear, mine did just that and have not heard from him in nearly a 2 plus years and he wrote me not to contact him ever again.
Jun 5 - 7AM
onwithmylife
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Daisyd

Only if you'find him out' and tell him you know who he is then he may be gone, mine came back and forth too many times to count in 15 years but is now gone for good, because he doesn't need me anymore, he cannot perform anymore and so has nothing left, he is an older guy, his virility was paramount to him. He burnt all hi bridges and has no interior sense of self, basically a shell is all that is left.
Jun 5 - 7AM
Sparrow
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From what I am learning, they

From what I am learning, they are never really through with you. How long were you with your N and how often did you end it?
Jun 5 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
heritage
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sparrow

Also, on his final discard his words to me were "You were the worst thing that ever happened to me." Of course I never have a comeback so I got in my car and left. I should have said"Why because I figured you out?" I started exposing him and he went crazy.A month prior to his discard I was the 'love of his life.' Yeah right. When his mask came off he was extremely frightening. I would have never dated a man like that had he acted his normal self in the beginning instead of prince charming. I just hate that he strung me for 5 fn years promising the world and then a month before divorce he tosses me to the curb and reconnects with old gf from 7 years ago.
Jun 5 - 1PM (Reply to #3)
heritage
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sparrow

I think mine is done for good. We were together 5 years and he ended it in Jan a month before my divorce was too be final. He had made commitments once I'd be divorced and starting devaluing me in Jone (6 mos prior to div). He had this all planned. During the devaluing I was confronting him on all his horrendous behavior and abuse. And then after the ugly discard in Jan I sent an email telling him I knew what he was all about. Have not heard from him since.
Jun 5 - 7AM (Reply to #2)
Daisyd
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Sparrow

Was with him for a 1.5 years and this is my third goodbye. Definitely the final one for me, my eyes are wide open. Still it is almost like waiting for the shoe to drop. I know he had lots of female 'friends' he still called. He used to tell me how depressed they all were! Happy to say he can't add me to his 'look how down I made this woman and who on that list shall I call to get my sick fix'. I hope it royally pisses him off.