I Saw the Narc Tonight
I Saw the Narc Tonight
OMG!! I am so freaking happy with myself that I can't stand it. My biggest fear has been running into the narc somewhere. Well, tonight it happened. I went to a bar to see a friend (who is a mutual friend) and after I had been there a while, I went to the front of the bar to talk to the friend, and narc was standing by the door. I had to walk around him to get to my friend. I didn't even look at him as I walked by. I had to go back past him to get to the table I was sitting at with my girlfriend (who was kind enough to go with me just in case.) Again, totally ignored him.
I told my girlfriend that he was there. I leisurely finished my beer, went to the bar to pay, and we left. My friend was talking to the narc at that point, so I went up to the friend and told him we were leaving, that it's a school night. He turned around and gave me a big hug. I glanced in the narcs direction, we made eye contact for a second, and I started to walk out. The friend excused himself from the narc and walked me and my girlfriend out of the bar!
My first thought when I saw him was "Wow, he is a short little f-er." I have not seen the narc for 14 months. And I was terrified about how I would handle this moment. But now I know. I know I can handle seeing him with grace and dignity. I think the most important piece of this puzzle was the amount of time that has passed since we broke up. If I had seen him 6 months ago, I probably wouldn't have handled it this way. I probably would have been visibly upset and shaking.
I just wanted to let everyone know that if enough time has gone by, you have maintained NC, and you see the narc, you will be in a much better place to handle this stressful situation. I feel kind of high right now. And it's freaking awesome!!!
MsVulcan
Marissa
Yes, I agree.
BWAHHH!!
Seeing the Narc
That's awesome
You rocked
wow!
MsVulcan
MsVulcan
You rock!
miss Vulcan
yay!
OH MY GOD, i have the exact
Great
Well done you very nicely
Scoop
Body Language
Funny
Unreal!
Yea for you!
I thought of that
Thanks for this post, Ms.
almostlydia
Oh Hell want to contact you alright...