I really need advice thanks

I have been reading about narcissists and really think my exboyfriend is one. I need advice on what exactly is going on, I am confused. He broke up with me in 2010 and since then has been calling whenever he wants to hook up and telling me things like he loves me, wants to be with me but right now because his friends and his family do not like me at all he can't be my boyfriend but that eventually when he has money saved up he wants to leave the country with me and maybe go to europe... when I try to call him he is either not available or one time when I tried to call him he just kept hanging up on me and wouldn't let me talk then texted me for me to leave him alone, then a week later he was calling me telling me that he does have feelings for me and wanted to hook up again when he got back into town... for the last 2 months he was being nicer to me, saying that he really does love me and care for me then when I tried calling him on a night I really needed someone to talk to he wouldn't answer...
he has told me before since the initial breakup that we can be together again in a relationship that he can be my boyfriend and me his girlfriend and then once we get together again though not officially because he can't tell anyone he's seeing me because he says none of his friends or his family like me at all, his demands increase such as a text I got recently that I didn't reply to "I need you to be willing to have kinky sex and be open to anything" I didn't reply to this text but then a few nights later I tried to call him when I needed someone to talk to and he wasn't available, so is the silent treatment just his way of "punishing" me for not answering his text question of if I can fulfill his needs... I didn't reply to that text but called a few nights later two nights in a row with no answer and I haven't heard from him since and it's been 2 weeks or so now since I've heard from him at all (the last time I heard from him was that text on if I can fulfill his sexual needs), I know that I might not be explaining this right as you can tell my mind is all over the place right now but maybe y'all can help me make some rational sense of what he's doing to me and if this is classic narcissist behavior? I hope to hear from you soon, thanks!