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I must have been a shitty supply for him

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#1 Feb 15 - 12PM
needing2know
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I must have been a shitty supply for him

Yesterday was Valentines Day, had a really good day , spent it with my kids, they got flowers and candy, we made pizza and just hung out and had great family time, it was so nice!
BOTH of my ex called and said HVD (they are Narcs too) it didn't bother me at all, This current exn that did all the damage , I didn't hear a word from him, and I am very happy for that, but it makes me wonder if I was not ever good enough for him, I don't care of he ever came back, but him not trying to contact made me go back to when it was the beginning of the D&D, he just made me feel like I wasn't worth it. I know that when they contact it is for their own selfish reasons but it made me feel non important anyway.

I feel alot better today, just one of those stupid emotions I had to deal with and like everything else it did pass, just thought I would share, thanks for listening.

Feb 15 - 7PM
Deidre40
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Having been through a few

Having been through a few narcs...and they all 'came back...' I have since learned through it all, that if they hadn't come back...or when they stopped coming back, I should say in my case...it was because they realized their game didn't work on me anymore. You are ASTUTE supply. lol Add a new word to the list! You probably were onto him...he couldn't get over on you, anymore...and he knew that. That is 'typically' when they move on for good...when either a)they found new supply or b) they realize their game doesn't work with us anymore. I'd say...be grateful. For if you are longing, even a smidgen for him, then he could have gotten his hooks back into you, had he contacted you yesterday.
Feb 15 - 5PM
onwithmylife
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needing toknow

that statement of yours shows to me issues of self esteem , NOBODY is good enough for them, are you seeking therapy, it was so wonderful for me and we did exercises for me to raise my self esteem,the narc is the one with NO sense of self worth............
Feb 15 - 2PM
Sparrow
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I am so glad that this

I am so glad that this feeling passed. Because you couldn't be more wrong. You were supply. Period. There is no such thing as "good" or "bad" supply. Supply is supply. No more than that. He tired of the situation, moved on to new supply. It had NOTHING to do with you, it had EVERYTHING to do with him. The absence of the N in your life should NEVER be taken personally. Never ever. Remember, he does not view you as a human being, like a normal person does. We are no different than the car in the driveway, the boat in the garage, the suit in the closet. All enjoyable, eventually bored of, and trades in for another. Glad you had a great V Day with the kids!
Feb 15 - 1PM
jillybean
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omg

I feel exactly the same. All day in the back of my mind yesterday I hoped he would contact me just so I could ignore him. Sick but I still feel the need for his attention. I as well had a great day with my kids but feel completely empty today because apparently I wasn't on his mind. Every hour my emotions change. I just want it to go away.
Feb 15 - 4PM (Reply to #3)
nlvr7
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feel. the. same. exact. way.

feel. the. same. exact. way.
Feb 15 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
sadderbutwiser
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OK GUYS!!! LISTEN UP!

first of all, we have all felt as you do. it is not sick to feel like you want him to contact you, even if it is to ignore him. i totally get that. i have felt the same way many times. please read my post under the topic "yep i called him this morning" by skb. i am too lazy to write it again, lol but i think it will help you guys.