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"I love you" vs. "I miss you"

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#1 Dec 27 - 4AM
anquilla
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"I love you" vs. "I miss you"

Can "I miss you" actually ever invoke stronger feelings than "I love you" especially in today's world where the word love is thrown around like a paper bag.

I've been retracing things from the last 8 years with exN. I noticed that I dont use the three words often. This does not mean I didn't feel it or know it, because I did (hate to admit ..but I still do, but I recognise it will take time for it to go..). I have used "i miss you'' to convey the same emotion/or a greater emotion that ''i love you'' does not convey in my opinion.

I guess I am curious about these words and how people use them. Not just for narcs, but for yourselves as well.

Dec 27 - 9AM
Sparrow
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I "love" you and I "miss" you

I "love" you and I "miss" you are two different feelings. They can of course go hand in hand, but can at times stand alone, seperate from one another. I love you is a profession of a deep feeling within your heart. To love someone, is to give of your whole self to them, surrender you heart. To miss someone, is to ache when that person is missing from your life. Whether physcially or emotionally, there is a void. I believe you can miss someone you don't necessarily love, but you can not love someone that you don't miss.
Dec 27 - 9PM (Reply to #4)
anquilla
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Yeah I agree. Love and miss

Yeah I agree. Love and miss can go hand in hand. After I went NC the exN told me a few times he "missed me". Never for once did he say " I love you" or anything remotely similar. Well since he's been with me for 8 years, it's pretty normal to miss. Since hes with OW- pretty sure he LOVES her. What really pissed me off was that he sent me a msg saying he missed me and telling me to keep safe when im overseas in the new year, yet hes flying over to OW to spend new years eve with her. What a fucking joke. This time, I really could not care less. She can have him. I'm better off w/o such a joke of a person.
Dec 27 - 12PM (Reply to #3)
virginia (not verified)
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Sparrow...I love the ...

Sparrow, I love the last sentence in your message. It is perfect..
Dec 27 - 6AM
WhiteSwan44
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anquilla

ExN used to call to tell me how much he missed my warm body next to him at night. I would have preferred he told me he missed ME not just my warm body. Or an I love you and miss you. Or better yet, sorry I was such a jackass. Nope. All I got was that he missed my warm body. Because it affected HIM. He either has another warm body to replace mine now or he's still missing mine. Sad that that's all he missed because I'm so much more than that!