I know the OW will one day be one of us but why do I feel she is to blame too?

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#1 May 1 - 12PM
Loren12
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I know the OW will one day be one of us but why do I feel she is to blame too?

I've never met the infamous OW. I've only seen her name pop up frequently on his cell phone, I've heard friends talk about who his new woman is, and now after only 3 months of him knowing her, he last told me (before I went NC) that he's in a serious relationship with her. Now, I was with that man for years, gave him a son and after all that I cannot say with confidence that he and I were ever in a serious relationship, or at least serious on his part.

Sometimes I can't comprehend how a woman can get involved with a man who just had a child with someone else a few months ago (without wondering if there are any lingering feelings) or can begin dating him while he was living with another woman and their child. I once dated a man who had a 4 year old son and after meeting his son and seeing how he missed his father, I stopped dating him and encouraged him to work things out with the mother, if possible, for the child's sake because that is the way I was raised... to always put the children first.

Back to my story: From what I've heard, she is recently divorced with no children and though I don't know what the circumstances were of her divorce, how can a woman jump into a relationship with a man knowing his circumstances (and yes, she does know he has a child under 6 months of age)? Now, they are in a long distance relationship (over 3,000 miles apart and fly to see each other every weekend) but does it ever dawn on her that while he is spending time with her EVERY week, he is away from his child? Now, I am not saying he is daddy dearest because he is not AT ALL but are the other women ever to blame too for the discarding process?

May 3 - 10AM
Portia
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OW clouds your thinking

May 3 - 11AM (Reply to #22)
Janie53
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Very well said Portia. I was

May 1 - 9PM
Janie53
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Loren

May 1 - 8PM
Allie
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I was 15 when I met my narc..

May 1 - 3PM
missym
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I agree with this

May 1 - 4PM (Reply to #16)
KayJayGee
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I have absolutely no pity for

May 1 - 6PM (Reply to #17)
Froglegs
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Wow.

May 1 - 7PM (Reply to #18)
KayJayGee
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Thank you! And thanks for

May 1 - 2PM
Janie53
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Loren

May 1 - 3PM (Reply to #13)
Loren12
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Janie53

May 1 - 8PM (Reply to #14)
Janie53
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Loren

May 1 - 1PM
Froglegs
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It's easy to place blame on the OW...

May 1 - 1PM
Sparrow
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Exactly what TNR said. And I

May 1 - 11PM (Reply to #9)
Run4it
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You hit the nail on the head, Sparrow

May 1 - 11PM (Reply to #10)
Sparrow
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I love your "Etch a Sketch"

May 1 - 1PM
Deidre99
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I agree with spinning. You

May 1 - 1PM
Layla
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Coming to terms........

May 1 - 1PM
Hunter
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He lies to her the way he

May 1 - 1PM
TNR1
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Hey Loren.. She is

May 1 - 12PM
spinning
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Loren, I wouldn't waste too much

spinning

May 1 - 4PM (Reply to #2)
Grymel
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I am still new here but from what I keep reading here

May 2 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
bluegirl
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I've told this before, but