I Felt Bad for you Mothers

I always felt bad for those of you who had to share their children with the narc & was thankful that my exN was too wrapped up in himself & his new supply to put too much effort into his dd. Well, things are fixing to change. He hired a lawyer cos he's afraid of going to jail for back child support. During our phone calls, he never mentioned dd, just mentioned he was working on getting caught up so he doesn't go to jail. On Friday he calls at 5:30 saying he's on his way to pick up dd for the weekend. He hasn't seen her in 8 mths, no Christmas presents for the past two yrs, no nothing & he thinks he can just waltz right into her life! I asked him where he was taking her since he doesn't have an address & he said they were staying at his mother's house & then he was taking her camping somewhere. I had called my lawyer in advance & she said that if he didn't give me an address of someone i knew & confirmed thats where he was taking her, I didn't have to let her go. I called his mother & she said she hadn't even spoken to him! He's such a liar! I never thought i could hate someone so bad. I told him he was in contempt of court for not paying all that he was told to pay within a certain amount of time & he said he wasn't in contempt cos my stupid lawyer told him to come up with some money & he could ask for an extension for the rest. Well my lawyer dropped the ball after that. I think the narc is right. Since my lawyer didn't set a date of WHEN he had to come up with the rest & just pretty much left it at that, even though its been a year, I doubt that anything is going to happen to him...More than the money, more than anything I wanted that bastard to do jail time. I know the inevitable is going to happen, I am going to have to let him take her. My bulldog lawyer will be asking the judge for supervised visitations, anger management classes, & parenting classes, but once he gets those completed, he will be able to take har & I won't be able to do a damn thing about it. I told him that if he had money to hire a lawyer, he could have put it towards child support. He said, "I didn't pay the lawyer!" I bet his gd did. He's good at talkin women into doing things for him. He has a new phone number too, I'm sure on her phone plan (since his is now disconnected for not paying bill!). I asked him how was i supposed to trust him with my dd when he smokes weed & he said, I'm a changed man, I'm not the same guy you knew! His nasty mouth is the same, that's for sure! He sure is being cocky now that he has a lawyer. He said if i wasn't home at 6:00 so he could pick up dd, he was calling cops. I told him, "Perfect! He can start off by giving u a ticket for no license, idiot!" Well, i don't kno if he showed cos i wasn't home but if he would have brought a sheriff, I would think they would have left a notice on my door & they didn't. I'm sure he was bluffing since he's not sure exactly where he stands with the law himself. When we were together, he had warrants in soo many counties here in Texas, from Dallas to San Antonio & everything in between. Nothing major, just tickets he didn't take care for no seatbelt, no insurance, etc. I helped that loser pay every last one! Now i wish i hadn't. He wouldn't be able to touch me with him knowing i had that kind of information. He thinks i should try to help him be a better father by not persuing court. He says he's trying to better his life & finally has a steady job & that I'm trying to ruin it by trying to get him locked up...well, boo fuckin hoo (like Barbara would say!). I couldn't give a rat's ass about his personal life. Oh yeah, spoke to his mom, his father is not dying! Another lie! I can't believe he still has same gf...it is a freakin miracle! Of course, she hasn't been with him full time yet since he was out of town. Now he's working in town so she'll be experiencing it soon. I completely utterly despise this man!...He is going to make my life miserable until one of us dies...