i dont know what to fight for any more
i dont know what to fight for any more
I feel very let down over the past week. I was doing better before that. I wrote a list of things that i was not able to let go over the past week here. Added to that the OW at work totally wanted to believe my story and i went ..oh someone does believe me...until she talked with the N and heard his side of the story.
the reality that is thrown on my face everyday does not help me at all. I see him everyday...his days goes fine with out me. When asked how are you able to go on like this despite the fact that we were very close...he says ...my life does not stop for you. \\
well..his life does go on. Every ones life goes on. i feel i am the one stuck eternally in the past.
What i am supposed to do while in NC? Hold anger? Look for some kinda downfall from his side that would make him feel some loss? does it happen and would that do any good for me? What if it never happens? What if the N marries some one and lives happily(in their terms).
Till now I thought i was holding on to something so that my pride will not get affected ...so that i would not accept that i let this all happen.....but now ...i just dont know. Things and people around me are just prefect fit for the N. May be this is a NARCISSISTIC SOCIETY. May be i cant expect any justice. Aren't we all looking for some kinda validation and support that we are not crazy? I get it here but i am all alone on the other side. I dont know how much longer i can fight. i feel very low. I am not saying i am going to break NC ...but i work with him and i am not able to hold my anger to shoo him away....act otherwise as if i dont have interest....its so hard. above that its against our nature to show faces and hold anger...and it feels so hard for that reason too....to be some one who we are not. what should be my attitude?
At this stage ...the reality is going very good for him ...making me think that i am the one crazy. it makes be break. it breaks my spirit.
if everyone is going to believe him then arent all of them taking his side? how can i get to hang out with people who believe him?
i am only left to break down and take the scrap the he throws (that i am special ...but wont commit to me). i am alone...i am afraid that i will end up as one of his friend who gets to hang out when he chooses to hang out and rest of the time he gets to hangout with OW.
i am also afraid that the reality is so hard to face that i need to give into the reality . The reality is that everyone believes that this is a relationship which didnt work out and its just a breakup. i am from a different culture than him and hence he (and others )believe that i dont understand dating rules. but i am human ....i understand through emotions. I was separated
from an unhappy marriage when i met the N and the N blames that is also a cause for me to fall in love with him.....which is not true. Do you guys believe me...that he acted like a boy friend and never accounted for it?
the past two days i have been crying to the fact that I WAS PLAYED.
Some of us here have children. I dont. Children gives focus and a reason to live for (not that its easy to have a child and go through this suffering). I dont know what to live or look forward to when the very things i valued and believed for ....such as love and trust is no where to be seen? All I can see is the N getting his way. May be i am a idealist who will never get to experience that i expect in this society? Could some one tell me how to focus..even short term to do something with my life? i feel desolate all the time and cant get to do anything.
the above are ramblings from my unsteady and very wounded mind...i hope who reads this gets what i am trying to say.
i am not able to fight and I just dont know what to fight for any more.
I was also wondering how is
EWA.....
Moonshine
FIGHT FOR YOU
its so hard
Moonshine :(
briseis
Meds helped me do the
Moonshine!!
i still feel low..
Moonshine
And the answer...
I am not depresessed ye, I am traumatized
thanks blueeyes
Moonshine..
blueeyes
yes michele
Again! Time to change the
Moonshine/Your Shrink...
i told the shrink
Narc Alert
Nevergoback
And they call him a "professional"???
susan...
"MIld" trauma? It's like being "slightly" pregnant
I'm with Michelle, your
the shrink
Moonshine re: Breseis
How old is this twirp...I mean Shrink???
shrink
But if you pick N scrap