I could really use some support =/
I could really use some support =/
Hi, I haven't posted anything in awhile. I've been on the forums for the last couple weeks though, looking for reassurance and comfort from the only people I feel actually understand.
I slipped and let him back into my life. I guess I was doing some magical thinking, wondering if perhaps he isn't really some big, bad narc but just an abused person. Like I was as a child. In need of love and human interaction like anyone else. I like being around him, missed being near him, so I started thinking; "If I remain in control of the factors that can screw with my head, how can I get hurt? Why can't I just be around him and stop taking everything so seriously?" Well, now I feel like I'm at ground zero again and am so upset with myself. I tried to keep somewhat an emotional distance. Things he'd say that I'd normally be weirded out about, I tried to let slide off. If he'd say the L-word I'd just smile, I tried to stay in the present with him and not think in terms of building, not worry about foundation or healthy, consistent communication. Who has that anyway.
Within a couple weeks I was feeling agitated, down. I wasn't wanting to go anywhere or call anyone to talk about anything. I was snapping at my dogs and reaching boiling anger over things like stubbing a toe or misplacing my car keys. I knew it was because I was lying to myself. I tried talking to him, telling him I was feeling confliced. Inside. He was upset but probably only because it meant I didn't want to hang out. He didn't ask what I was feeling torn about, didn't even respect the space I asked for because he kept asking me to come over, becoming frustrated when I told him I needed to think some things thru for myself.
I feel like I'm addicted to this person. Yesterday I was feeling semi-sick, wanted to be alone but he asked if he could bring me breakfast, a protein drink, take care of me....I let him. I regret it. He said some things that have me feeling so uncomfortable today. I'm so depressed that I've been self-medicating with some pain pills I got from a gf to help me sleep. I let him know I had them, he saw them on my nightstand and asked. He didn't say much about them but later let me know that he "knows all of my idiosyncrasies, I can't hide anything from him". That creeped me out. I told him; I don't hide things from you...(while thinking- You've got some balls talking to me about hiding things). He even elaborated, telling me that if I did have something to hide, I couldn't and he'd know. Which I took offense to. He's so smart I guess that he'd know, but I'm so dumb that I was punked for years. I just let it go. The comments. Also the one he made while we watched a movie (depicting a girl straying from her bf to pursue another guy then coming back to the bf & asking for forgiveness); telling me "I'd be outta there, that would be it, done, over". I thought to myself....wtf? I'm sitting here watching movies with you, after your betraying me in the worst way possible, listening to you describe your non-existant moral relationship-code, am I having auditory hallucinations or is this the Orwellian doublethink mentioned in the description of how they lie.
I'm feeling bad because I keep arriving at feeling deserving of some of this. Which makes me sick because I think all of my flaws or struggles were things he never cared about, never mentioned to me, simply stored upstairs to use as justification or excuse for treating me like a non-person. That makes me so angry, it's so ass-backward, so wrong. So why do I feel guilty? Ashamed? I feel like I've got this ominous cloud around myself today and I can't shake it, I'm so afraid that I'll keep doing this to myself and I desperately need something concrete that I can hold onto to help me let him go permanently. I feel pathetic for wanting that something but I so do. Why isn't all of this enough? Why do I keep going back, as if all the crap has somehow faded or become magically irrelevant? Why do I feel so addicted and so afraid that everyone else will feel muted and dull next to this Technicolor person I've been so attached to for so long. Why do I often feel like putting up with the crap isn't so bad and that maybe I deserve it.
Venus,
Thank you so much
Venus, dear heart,
spinning
I'm trying so hard
yes I became physically ill
You said yourself
stay~strong
Wow
I'm struck by people
Addiction
So sad but true
stay~strong
Anger
Sure, I totally understand
stay~strong
Yes! Yes! Yes!
Too Long
In my situation Im the one
Control Freaks
Well yes at times I would
Narc Love
Oh your welcome. Funny you
OMG
No auditory hallucinations,
straight up
Fooled
venus
Venus
Overly
venus loves pluto
I know
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