I can't stop obsessing whether he is a narc or not?

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#1 Apr 25 - 7AM
sarah787
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I can't stop obsessing whether he is a narc or not?

I think about it all day and all night. I feel like of course everyone on here is going to tell me he is, but even my therapist wasn't sure. I still feel so so responsible for everything. I have all these memories where I'd freakout over nothing. I wish I could take it all back, just to see if we'd work. I can't even remember the bad things about him since the break up was over 1 year ago. I do know we've been sleeping together almost every month since. In his last e-mail he told me he know "he has serious issues."

Ugh. I am so so so freakin depressed.

Apr 25 - 8AM
Hunter
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Sarah

If this is all your fault, have at it tell us what you did? Write it here let us break it down for you! Hunter
Apr 25 - 7AM
MandyM
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I still go back and forth on

I still go back and forth on my ex, too. I keep a running list of all the things I remember about him that I didn't like or that seemed fishy at the time, and a lot of those fit the narcissistic tendencies, which helps keep me focused. But eventually I accepted that whether or not he's a bonafide narcissist doesn't matter - what matters is that he wasn't very nice to me, and he wasn't a very nice person in general. All the things on the list are proof of that.