I recently (6weeks ago) made the N who had been with for 9 months leave.
That lovely charming man he had been had gone and been gone for about 2 months completely. Before that he had still been there on and off.
He had moved in and I had to make him leave. I think I have made great progress but I still cant get that missing charming man out of my head.
we are both members of the same socialising group in the city and I just feel sick when people mention they have seen him. I feel stuck between hiding away and making myself go out. I went out last night but it is very hard and since I know I've been d&d'd I know it wont be long until he is out with his next victim ... sadly I cant see her as a victim but rather someone who has Mr Charming.....
I think the worst thing about all of this is how pervasive all his criticisms were ... and how they have implanted in my head.
I really just want him out and I want to forget about him.:-(
I think this forum is great as really I dont think other people can really understand unless they have been through it.