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I can't get it together

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#1 May 1 - 9AM
sarah787
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I can't get it together

All of you have given me such great advice about my issues with being single, but I can't even believe how much it is eating me away inside.

I have two roommates, and we all broke up with our boyfriends around the same time (over a year ago) now both of them are in relationships. This is our first summer in our new place, and we were suppose to all go out/ be single. We all use to say "watch you two get boyfriends at the same time, and I be the single one," well of course, it happeneded, and I'm the singe one.

I went to a party with them last night, trying to be SO positive, and they both completely ignored me. I totally felt like the 5th wheel. I was so social, found a random beer pong partner ( he was cute) and he left the game half way through to go talk to this other girl!

I want to crawl into a hole and never come out. I've been taking videos of my side profile and looking up nose jobs again. I don't have any other single friends around here, I have joined clubs, dating websites, talk about this with my therapist, but my self confidence problems are getting so out of hand. It doesn't help that the friends I do hangout with our boy crazy, it's always about bars and boys. Ugh. I don;t care what anyone says, I think it's about looks. In some ways I am more confident that my roommates. I don't get it.

To make matters worse today is the ex-narc's birthday. I am once again putting him on a pedestal because the one thing he was good for was making me feel beautiful.

I really hope I find love and happiness again.

May 1 - 4PM
Happy1
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I'm sorry you are having such

I'm sorry you are having such a hard day! It's hard sometimes to turn the focus on us and not worry about dating and finding that special someone. You need to appreciate yourself and realize that you are special and fun and you're doing just fine without anyone right now. Just enjoy life and keep moving forward. Focus on you!
May 1 - 1PM
Scoop
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I dont think ture love has

I dont think ture love has much to do with looks , you need to find youre confidence and love youre self , and let me tell you right now you look amazing , seriously , and im a harsh critic you should have heared me and my girlfriend fashion police the royal wedding .. there where no prisoners :) As for youre roomates having new relationships that is not suprisisng if they broke up with normal men , but you broke up with an emotionaly abusive narc and that takes way longer to get over , my goodness they say 18 months but im even going to say longer . Forget about men for a while , i have given myself the summer off men ... i use to think i wasnt someone unless i had a boyfriend but i dont feel that now , there are men everywhere but only one or two will come along in a life time who is worth giving youre heart too , personaly i think there is nothing more depressing than going out with someone you dont love , i hate that feeling of my inner voise screaming at me "there is something wrong " .. i have never been able to do it . You are only in youre 20 s you are beautiful, slim and chique .there will be 100s of men lining up but when you are ready . I should imagin the signals you are sending out at the moment are all over the place ... i know mine are and good men sence it like we do , this will go in time and when youre ready .. xxx
May 1 - 1PM
Hunter
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Sarah787

UGH!! Be you. That's all you should be. If you want a nose job, get one, but only because you want it. You are trying too hard. Find something you like and roll with it. Art, Music, riding, book club, Ski club. Hunter