I broke NC :(

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#1 Jun 1 - 10AM
Stace
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I broke NC :(

Hi all,

This was a few months ago now but I still question myself about it.

It was my exs bday and we'd already broken it off though I felt compelled to call him for his birthday. At first I didn't even think I would or had to. Though after speaking to a close family friend they advised me to "be the better person" as I was once engaged to him. Part of me felt like I'd be a fool to do this and be seen as weak plus he didn't ring me for mine. Though my family friend reassured me that it was the complete opposite and that only an "uneducated" person would see at as this - As calling him "does" take guts and doing the act in its self shows that I'm strong enough to confront him and have no fear of him. Partly I also thought I am not ringing him to beg him to come back into my life but to purely wish him all the best.

So I did. I made the call...One the phone began to ring there was no turning back. He picked up and answered hello without knowing who it was (guess he wiped my number off). i then said hello and told him it was me. I proceeded to say that I know that he is probably surprised to be hearing from me but that there is a saying that translates in being "It is always best to do whats right" and that I wish him all the best. To that he relied "Thanks" and then we hung up. It was a conversation of approximately 1min. Afterwards oddly enough I felt a sense of peace - as if I had done "the right thing" as he wouldn't even call his own sister in law for her birthday (doesn't get along with her) when we were together to which I said "do the right thing" - to which he refused and then the day after he received angry phone calls from nearly all his direct family members for not wishing/calling her - To which he replied "She never calls/wishes me".

Anyways so I'm sharing this with you to get your honest opinions on the subject as I question today wether it really was the "right thing to do" or that I "let him win"? I know what my family friend was meaning to say - though part of me can't help to think that he thought I was calling him for "other reasons". This was the last time i made contact with him which was 6 months ago and don't plan on any others. Feel free to be completely honest /even if it hurts as really I just want to know the truth.

xoxoxox

Jun 1 - 11PM
Stace
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Thank you all. Yes Brit

Jun 1 - 7PM
Brit
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Stace, can you be honest and

Jun 1 - 11PM (Reply to #17)
Stace
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Thank you all. Yes Brit

Jun 1 - 5PM
Janie53
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Stace

Jun 1 - 2PM
Deidre99
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Most people don't understand

Jun 1 - 2PM
True2me
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You are probably used to

Jun 1 - 11AM
unbreakable
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You ask... "I question today

Jun 1 - 11AM (Reply to #12)
Stace
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Thank you unbreakable - and

Jun 1 - 11AM
lessonlearned
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there is a reason that NC is all or nothing

Jun 1 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
Stace
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I know what you're saying ll

Jun 1 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
Used
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You did do it for a reaction

Jun 1 - 1PM (Reply to #10)
thebigpayback
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i agree with this. when i

Jun 1 - 11AM (Reply to #4)
Stace
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Yes I know I gave him

Jun 1 - 4PM (Reply to #9)
ItsFinallytime
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Stace, you seem to be very

Jun 1 - 11AM (Reply to #5)
Used
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I was doing it for the right

Jun 1 - 11AM (Reply to #6)
Stace
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I see what you're saying. I

Jun 1 - 1PM (Reply to #7)
thebigpayback
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no , you are not a fool. you

Jun 1 - 1PM (Reply to #8)
Stace
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Thank you TBPB xx It really