I am tired of feeling like this!
I am tired of feeling like this!
I am 15 weeks NC and I am feeling all kinds of things. My NH did some really terrible and embarrassing things to me during our 25 years together and it seems that everything is coming to the surface and i can't stuff them down anymore. For years I have willed myself to not think about things he did and to tell myself that it isn't that bad.
I find myself the last couple of days questioning if he is a narcissist. He fit every trait that i have seen but yet my mind will question. I am crying as I writ this because i know he is a narcissist.
3 months into our relationship after being perfect he forced me to have oral sex with him. He spit in my face, He kicked me with boots on, he broke furniture, he forced sex from me, he held me in the house for 10 hours one day. He controlled what I wore, he would take my car and not pick me up after work. All of this was many years ago.
The newest abuse was he cheated, he solicited sex and massages online and if i confronted him he would say that I was abusive and invasive. he spent thousands of dollars of my money (He work 2 full time jobs and is always broke). He would buy 500 shoes and 200 belts and 300 cologne. He always have to have the best. (even though he could not afford it). He was cold and aloof with no emotions.
He was jealous of anyone who I paid attention to. He accused me of flirting with my brother-in-law. He is friends with every ex-girlfriend that he has ever had and talk on the phone with them at all times of the night and day for hours at a time but would not call me or answer when I called him. If he did call me it would only be for a minute or so.
I could go on and on about him but what I don't understand is why am I not jumping for joy that he is gone. I will never go back to him but i feel so fu**ed up and alone. I want my happy self back. I feel like sometimes I want to give up. I have a great support system but I can't explain to them what I am feeling because i don't know what i am feeling I just want to be done with it and move on with my life. I know that he has an OW by now because i did everything for him except wipe his a** and he cannot take care of himself but that does not really bother me it's me that bothers me I am angry at myself for not being stronger and over it already. Can someone help me with this?
Thanks!
Victim No More
"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess
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25 years is so incredibly
Peace. J
Thanks Janet
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why you feel crazy
Jean you are
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You have a lot of healing to
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