hurtandconfused's story
hurtandconfused's story
I realize that the dream that i held in my heart for my family was just that. My dream and my dream only! I had been with my soon to be ex-husband for 7 years. Looking back at everything i realize that i was always apologizing for everything. When ever "X" would get upset about something (usually me not agreeing with something that he wanted to do)and blow up and break something or punch a wall and storm out of the house and only to return like nothing happened and not ever apologizing for his bad behavior. I would get no kind of explanation other than i couldn't just leave him alone. I had to push his buttons. It was my fault for his outburst. For not following his script and challenging his superior intelligance.
I found myself apoligizing for everything. We were on our way to a a friends house for the superbowl when we ( the kids too)stopped at circuit city so he can check out the sales they were having do to them closing down and i had no proplem with that. But i had such a terrible headache that i decided to stay in the car with the kids. I figured that since we were going to be together i didn't have a reason to take my phone or purse with me. But because i wasn't feeling good i completely forgot to let him know. BIG mistake!! When he came back to the car after spending 15 minutes inside circuit city, I got chewed out!! He yelled at me in front of the kids. He said " What the F**k is the point of you having a F*#k!^g Phone whe you're not going to answer it when i F***en call you!! I felt soo small when he did that to me in front of the kids. I was humiliated! But he didn't see it that way! I was just a cry baby and cried about everything. He didn't apologize for it because it was my fault. I should know better than to leave my phone behind.
I ask myself why did i make so many excuses for him. No one ever knew that he behaved liked this. I kept his little secrets for so long. But now that we are divorcing i'm no longer keeping his dirty little secrets. I think it bothers him that people are finding out who he really is. But as always i feel like i want closure but i know i will never get it from him. Because to him, he never did anything wrong.
Wow Chloe... they are Similar!
There is no closure with a narcissist
hurtandconfused
The cussing...
I remember those outings and
The F Word
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