How many of you have experienced mysterious Unknown Calls?

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#1 Sep 10 - 4PM
gettinbetter
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How many of you have experienced mysterious Unknown Calls?

I have seen this in another post. I am curious to know if this is one of their frequently used tactics like the way they use the phone to control you?

Sep 11 - 1AM
almostlydia
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This was the signature of

This was the signature of the exN. One of his OW's actually told me she called all his women his 'private collection' because he called them all with the private setting on his phone. We all knew who it was. This is also how he gets around the block I have on my phone for his numbers. I have to give the a**hole credit, it was pretty clever. Now he can call from his secret phone on private and completely be incognito except for the fact I can look at his cell phone account and know that he is calling me from his secret phone. Nothing more guilty than that. There is some irony in the fact that I taught him how to get more clever in his deceptions. I hope the old OW back in his life again appreciates this:) almostlydia

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Sep 11 - 8AM (Reply to #11)
gettinbetter
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almost Lydia

Did he ever speak to you? I swear for me its this weird thing that they dont want to talk they just want to know they could if they needed to
Sep 10 - 6PM
gettinbetter
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Not only did he want control

Not only did he want control but I think that unknown call was to verify he still had access to me. I dont think he had any intention of speaking to me. I had mentioned many times that he should block me from his phone and vice versa I think he was just confirming that I hadnt done that. I dont expect to hear from him for a while as I think he has new supply but I think he needs to know that he has access to his emergency back up supply just in case the new one doesnt do her job and she wont.
Sep 10 - 6PM
faithinthefuture
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This is weird

this is weird because in the last 2 days I have gotten calls from a "restricted number" with no msg left.and of course no number to call back. i honestly don't think it's him because he just doesn't have the balls to call me. just strange this topic came up at this time.
Sep 10 - 6PM (Reply to #8)
gettinbetter
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I think it was

I dont think its any coincidence that we all have unknown calls. Did you ever get them before? because I have never gotten one on my cell number. It will be interesting to see how many people reply
Sep 10 - 5PM
ShaynasMommy
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mine would call me on the

mine would call me on the company cell phone and claim he didn't mean to do it. he must have hit the wrong button. Well, I guess you can't blame a narc for trying....after almost a year of NC and still working in the same office space with your ex supply. :)
Sep 10 - 5PM
Susan32
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Happened when I lived in the dorms

It happened A LOT when I lived in the dorms... every once in awhile I'd get a creepy caller, and hang up. The calls stopped when I moved and the ex-Psych professor did NOT have my number. I'd pick up the phone, ask, "Who is it?" repeatedly, then hysterically, and I'd hear breathing... then hear the phone hang up. Haven't had to deal with that in 11 years, thank God. I've had to say "sorry wrong number"--but NOTHING like that.
Sep 10 - 5PM
sparky2009
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Mine will only call from

Mine will only call from unknown numbers I always know it is him. Never ever leaves a message. Why would he ever leave a message inquiring about his own kids right ? How silly to think a father may check on his children once every 18 months or so ...
Sep 10 - 5PM (Reply to #2)
gettinbetter
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The phone issues

I swear they are so weird about the phone. It was the phone issues that really convinced clueless and I that they are N's aside from all of the other obvious things but this phone issue other people dont do that stuff they just dont. Its one of their "quirky" little things. Its so freaking bizarre. I am anxious to see how many people answer this.
Sep 10 - 5PM (Reply to #3)
Alibi_10
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Phone as control tactic

This has been the bane of my life ... even now I am getting calls, but no messages left for a few days - the answer phone kicks in. When we were 'together' - he was too mean to pay for calls, and when he was abroad I ran up a HUGE phone bill because he kept asking me to call him, but I was so stupidly mad about him I didn't worry about the cost. Then ... we would talk for ages, but he always had to hang up first. When once I asked him if he was going to do the formal "can we wrap this up now, I have to go" thing - he put the phone down and wouldn't answer it again - then when I finally got hold of him, he was raging and screamed at me to leave him alone. He would not let me ring him during the day (even though he was home), but would ring me at work despite saying that he never rang me at work! He ignored text messages, rang when he knew I was busy or out with people and when I said I would get back to him - he wouldn't answer the phone ! Aaaaaaargh ... it is very useful to get this all out, I know it seems like venting but it does help at this particular stage (only 6 days NC) - it helps me remember why I am doing this! x
Sep 10 - 6PM (Reply to #4)
onwithmylife
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phone calls

I use to get calls all the time, I would say hello, aand then click, hung up ,but ever since he declared it is over, no more hangup calls, I have been offically devalued and discared like rubbish!the phone was aHUGE control for him, like when he was mad at me he would not answer the phone and he would get angry with me if I left a message because it used up his precious few minutes ,so I was between a rock and a hard spot about how to contact him, he must have gotten sadistic pleasure over the phone control!