How to handle *them* Badmouthing you to people you know ?
How to handle *them* Badmouthing you to people you know ?
My situation is that I'm living with my ex NPD but will be moving out before the end of Summer.
I am working very hard but this economy is horrible and I've had a lot of work fall through last minute.
He KNOWS this.
He himself is an employed attorney. Albeit a lawyer who sits around reading political news and going on Facebook most of the day !
I know that while I'm sitting here trying to overcome my PTSD returning and the perpetual exhaustion from taking the brunt of his N snark, he is having a good ole time.
Anyway I have just learned of a conversation N had with his Mother. His Mother didn't know I was living here (N didnt want her to know)
Finally she found out when he called her and asked her for money this week.
He seemed to have used me being a financial drain as the reason why.
Which is total BS. Im living like a little pathetic church mouse in his house. I dont even have a drawer to put my clothes in ! Theyre all on the floor or heaped on an old dresser of his.
Anyway he recounted word for word their conversation. (N doesn't lie about stuff he says, or what others say)
He told her I am floating along and he doesn't know what work Im doing and he is my only visible means of support right now.
His Mother asked him if he will marry me because she wants grandkids finally.
He told her no, but he feels sorry for me and that's why he hasn't throw me out.
She then told him I need to grow up, stand on my own move on and that he needs therapy to break it off with me totally.
What she told him really hurts because I thought she cared about me and also respected me.
Im so disgusted by what he said about me.
I've practically gone nuts trying to make money and have power again. I'm working the entire weekend (21 hours) in the broiling heat as a promotional model just to bring in some money.
And his Mother knows I moved here to be near him originally and that Ive had a lot of setbacks. I don't like her judgement of me or her telling him to go into therapy over ME.
Now I have this fear of her trying to force me out even faster because she owns the house.
Anyway, how do you handle the N twisting information about you to other people ?
I'm sure he will twist it around
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.' --Mary Anne Radmache
Me personally, I don't let it
Actions Speak Louder than Words
i can reaaly sympathise with
Sounds like a difficult situation
Time to Move On
Difficult
Thanks. I am friends with his