How do you resist checking Facebook for his status?

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#1 Mar 21 - 2PM
mustmoveon
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How do you resist checking Facebook for his status?

This is probably a stupid question but I'll ask it anyway.

I, for all intents and purposes, have been NC w/ my N for 3 months now. I cycle through being fragile and vulnerable, hurt, and angry on any given day. I don't have any temptation to call him or to ask mutual friends/acquaintances about him. I have a greater than slight temptation to drive by the places he frequents (have even seen his car there), but have not stopped. Where I fall down is with Facebook. I don't usually check Facebook, but since I am in the process of starting a new business, I will need to be on FB often.

Last week, I trolled around FB and learned that my N (who's in his mid-60s) is hitting on a 27-year old woman in Japan who is too stupid to realize what he's doing (sorry--I am bitter about her too. I see her photos--she's not hot, has pics of her at a "club," which is probably where he found her b/c that's where all of his fantasies begin, and fits the profile of who he's targeting--Asian, late 20's - 40 years old, working in the "beauty" industry--not). That ruined my day for 4 days. My N is not one of my FB friends. He's too stupid and lazy to put privacy settings on his account so everything is there for the world to see (gotta love it--he even told that 27-year old bimbo to call him and posted his work cell phone for the world to see. Good going, sherlock. I hope your employer fires your a**, even if you've been there for a long time). What to do about this temptation/how do I keep from checking up on his status on FB? Thank you in advance for any suggestions.

Mar 23 - 7AM
freaked
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Deactivate the old FB, and open a New FB

Mar 22 - 7PM
SundaySmile
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How do you resist checking Facebook for his status?

Mar 21 - 9PM
rosedewittbukater
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Snooping is contact

Mar 21 - 6PM
dulcinea441
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BLOCK. BLOCK. BLOCK. And, oh

Mar 23 - 8AM (Reply to #13)
freaked
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good option too

Mar 22 - 11AM (Reply to #12)
Natashroom
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+1

Mar 21 - 9PM (Reply to #11)
jaime17
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And RESIST the urge to

Mar 21 - 3PM
Deidre99
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Best advice I can

Mar 21 - 3PM
midnight7
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I've never been on FB, never

Mar 21 - 3PM
Ophelia
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Easy to resist--because the

Mar 21 - 2PM
tootsgee
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I had this a lot in the

Mar 21 - 2PM
Stillstanding
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Block him

Mar 21 - 2PM
Brit
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fb

Mar 21 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
mustmoveon
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Thanks for your perspective

Mar 21 - 3PM (Reply to #3)
Monarch
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Holy cow, that is so sad.

Mar 22 - 1PM (Reply to #4)
dudette
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my psycho dad lives in vietnam