How do i get him to leave me alone?!
How do i get him to leave me alone?!
I thought I got off easy for a while. I told my N that I needed to say goodbye,that I didnt feel loved and wasnt going to stay in a relationship like that. I told him that he hadnt even tried to fix things between us and thats when he said he's too busy "working on himself" to fix "US". Fine okay, so this helped me with what i thought would be closure.
But he couldnt just let it be, no. First he calls me a few days after that and leaves a message that he wants to make peace with me, of course feeling like he has to do this in person...I egnored it. I honestly was settled on the fact that he didnt care.So what does he do? He shows up a few nights later,around 1 am as high as a kite, ringing the buzzer loud--knowing that it could wake up my mom,and obviously not caring about waking me up. I made the mistake of meeting him outside and talking for an hr,which really brought back some feelings I didnt want back,and sent me into CD again.
Since then, i have talked to him a few times over the phone,and had coffee with him once. Im so mad at myself, and mad at him! I dont like it when he tells me he loves me and wants to fix things between us. Its sad,and confuses me because i know theres no hope,and am almost 100% sure he doesnt love me at all...but part of me maybe buys into the bs.
Now Im having panick attacks because i have to wait until he calls again to tell him not to contact me anymore. His phone is out of order...I COULD leave a message with the desk though,at the facility he lives.
This is irritating!!! I wish he never came by that night. So far, i can see that (just like the rest of them) he doesnt respect my need to move-on.And im getting the feeling that he's going to keep messing with me every now and then after i say goodbye again, just enough to keep ruining the quality of my life.
I wish i never agreed to come outside that night, or talk on the phone, or go for coffee with him the other night and be nice to him. Before that night he came by the apt, i wouldve never thought i would fall into this again.
Is there anything that i could say or do that is known to repel a N?
time to get tough with him,and myself
Blindfaith
BLINDFAITH
Why him?
Excellent info!!!
Thankyou everyone for your responses
blindfaith
His phone is out of order??
Hunter
Blind
"you dont need to give him a reason for silence"
blindfaith
It's worse than" its not
Blindfaith, I think you know
spinning
spinning
That's exactly what you need
narcissizednomore