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How can they be so “loveable”?

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#1 Oct 12 - 10PM
Sea
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How can they be so “loveable”?

The exN is out playing, plenty of woman plenty of choices. Most of those women are craps out for some extra cash and gifts. There are a handful of them that are genuine, really loved him with all their heart and wanted to have a future with him.

It strikes me how can he be so LUCKY?! There are so many good men out there who don’t even 10% of his luck!
The exN is so lucky in his career (right mentors at the right time!), lucky with money (he has some very lucky investments) and most lucky of all with WOMEN! So many women literally gave him their hearts (yes I am one of those stupid fools!!!!).

If you sense jealousy, yes I am jealous! He’s in his 50s!! still! The luck is going on strong! I know he gets all these by manipulations, but so lucky to this extend is mind boggling! I am 20 years younger, and I think I am reasonably attractive with a kind heart. But man! I never get a fraction of such luck as in many men chasing after me, nope, I don’t go out to seek them and a few are interested but in no way compared to the exN. I am ok with this normal woman with abit of interest from men not excessive that sounds normal. But What is going on? Why that Narc gets all?

Sumiko

Oct 14 - 12AM
Amiee
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:)

I appreciate your post! It sucks I am at home on weekends...he is out banging the woman in Dubois Idaho, or the woman from Danbury Connecticut, or the Chick for New York. He isn't as good looking for a man as I am for a woman but it is his attitude, confidence, and the fantasy world he lives in. If life were fair, he'd be under the bus.
Oct 13 - 3PM
Trulybroken
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Mr Roboto was FAR from

Mr Roboto was FAR from lovable! In fact, I never really liked him. I was with him because he started to grow on me and because I was really lonely at the time and was there. Seeing how mean he was, fake and just plain fucking retarded, he was not lovable in any way. I was in a fog and glad I came out of that
Oct 13 - 5AM
Scoop
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From what i can tell it is a

From what i can tell it is a combination of a few factors that make the narc woman magnet , they uses all sorts of tricks and manipulations to get the woman to fall for him , love bombing , trance , fake pasonas and a big one which we dont mention enough is the high levels of testosterone . I found a video on relgious cults and how they uses very simarlar tactics to gain members as a narc will use to gain victums . ill post it on the board . x
Oct 13 - 4PM (Reply to #8)
into the light
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Scoop, I think the high

Scoop, I think the high levels of testosterone were key in my case. And my ex psycho/narc absolutely fits Sheridan's description of a high testosterone male: balding, good upper body strength (though overweight), low brow, much shorter index finger. He also had that 'glow' that Sheridan describes. And the accompanying high testosterone characteristics - impulsivity, risk-taking, etc. Then of course, my oxytocin kicked in ... I recently discovered he had signed up to a neuro-linguistic programming/hypnosis site when he was dating me, so I think he was honing his trancing skills on me too.
Oct 14 - 12AM (Reply to #9)
How could I
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Into the Light....

Into the Light... Where did you find Sheridan's description of a high testosterone male? I have heard him mention balding & upper body strength, but I don't remember a low brow and much shorter index finger. I find this fascinating! I would love to read or hear about this!
Oct 13 - 12AM
dulcinea441
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One day his luck WILL run

One day his luck WILL run out. It's only a matter of time. He'll be old, alone, bitter and RAGING at the world. Not a fate I would wish on my worst enemy!
Oct 13 - 2AM (Reply to #6)
Sea
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It is indeed a sad ending. So

It is indeed a sad ending. So far, what we read here is that even Narc that are 65YO are happy as hell, basking in attention and enjoying. The problem its me, I need to again divert my attention AWAY from the Narc. What the Narc does is no longer my issues. I need to LEARN this really!!
Oct 12 - 11PM
TNR1
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Most Narcs have a very high opinion of themselves

and as such, they exude confidence. I wouldn't call it luck, I would call it being a manipulative machine. They seek out and target women they believe they will have the highest success rate with and then love bomb all over them during the idealization phase. That same perceived confidence that gets them so many women is also what gets them all their work buddies and supposed friends. Remember that with an N...everything is about perception! They are sooo focused on the externals because they are incredibly hollow inside (like an empty mansion). Honestly, I don't understand what you are jealous of....so you want to have your whole life be about "looking good" and nothing inside your soul? I'll pass on that thank you very much. I'd much rather be REAL and have substance inside of me...but I guess it can look rather tempting from the outside.
Oct 13 - 2AM (Reply to #2)
Sea
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I think I am actually venting

I think I am actually venting some of of thots here. Yeah, I dont really understand why I am jealous. More of an emotional thing than anything intellectual. Logically, we all know Narcs are empty. Still, woman are naturally giving and nurturing that we tend to sympathise even tho they have a "womanizer" reputation and we tend to be way way too forgiving to the extend of missing alot of red flags. And yes they indeed look good from outside.
Oct 13 - 7AM (Reply to #3)
Froglegs
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Vent away, Sea! :) The cool

Vent away, Sea! :) The cool confidence Narcs exude is intoxicating. Quick to laugh, full of wit, and can give a sultry looks that send quivers down the spine. That is why they're so "lucky" with women. It never lasts though. They can't keep up the charade. It's too much energy, they are incapable of anything real, and get bored way too easily...much like toddlers. That's how I'm getting through this more easily than before. I keep thinking of XN as a toddler in a man's body. Yick.
Oct 13 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
Sea
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Froglegs the narcs are

Froglegs the narcs are charming on the outside. They are helpless when we needed support. I rem the first time i cried infront of him, in privacy of his bedroom. Instead offering help, encouragement, hugs, he just froze there really like a toddler!