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Hoovering wherever they can...

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#1 Jan 20 - 1PM
mandathepanda
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Hoovering wherever they can...

Having told me that he wants none of his possessions back a few weeks ago, he said my name today at work, the first time he has addressed me since I ended it. I looked up,and he said "I need the spare bike helmet back please". This was a clear attempt to draw attention to the fact he is intending to take someone as a passenger on his bike, and so immediately sent a message via the work IM system, asking him to not speak to me unless it is connected with work. I then terminated the conversation immediately before he could respond.

I have to be in the same airspace as him but I do not have to engage with him, nor do I have to be a victim of his sad games any more.

I hate him today. As brave as I am, he still has the ability to get under my skin...

Jan 20 - 6PM
IncognitoBurrito
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Still

You still stood your ground. Good job. I don't know how you do not walk straight over to his cubicle and twist his nuts into his spine, but that's just me.
Jan 21 - 4AM (Reply to #8)
mandathepanda
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Ha Ha Incognito Burrito,

Ha Ha Incognito Burrito, beleive me I have wanted to SO badly....LOVE the name btw.. xxx
Jan 20 - 3PM
Done sourcing
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Annoying is annoying whether

Annoying is annoying whether we are done with them or not. I share a child with the exwn, and when I let her have my ear she abuses the priviledge. I am now email only, and that works for me just fine. They are tedious at best, boring and predictable as normal, and dangerous and debilitating at worse. A Narc says they don't want their stuff because they have no compunction about changing their (empty) mind and asking for it later. It gives them an excuse to intrude, and that is what they like to do when they need supply. They really don't gove a crap about us, only their immediate need. He can't see under your skin, so just stay nc and keep him away and unengaged. He will pay attention to your behavior, and use a stategy to annoy you when he is bored. Stay resolved around him and give him nothing to use. And in the event he directs anything directly at you silence is an appropriate response, anything more he will twist as always. Good going and thanks for sharing. ds
Jan 21 - 6AM (Reply to #5)
abreva
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Done Sourcing - I am email only too

DS, I am currently figuring out how to deal with the EXNH-Psychopath. Communication is email only and has been very difficult since this week I have already received 4 ranting emails of about 1000 words each. I will look to you for guidance on this. --Abreva
Jan 21 - 9AM (Reply to #6)
Done sourcing
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I get those, and when you dig

I get those, and when you dig through the messages there is always the element of it's always all about them. I don't ever respond to them on the same day they come unless it is really about some significant detail about our child. Otherwise I wait for calm and wisdom to take over before I respond. Most of the time a response isn't necessary, and with no response it is more likely that they will move on quicker. She haunts from time to time just because she is a Narc, but I accept that today like I accept that bees sometimes fly by and annoy, but will fly on if I leave them alone. ds
Jan 20 - 2PM
Femmegem
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Just seeking attention

Well done for NC even though you were in the same room! Thats such a healthy mindset. I failed NC at the last hoover even though it was by text, you're doing great, keep it up.
Jan 20 - 1PM
Snowflake
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Just yuk

He really is a horrible mind fuck. Prob needs the other helmet for his over inflated ego to wear x
Jan 20 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
IncognitoBurrito
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ahahaha

That was a good one!