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HOORAY!!!! He's giving me the Silent Treatment!!!!!

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#1 Feb 27 - 6AM
abreva
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HOORAY!!!! He's giving me the Silent Treatment!!!!!

OMG. How did I get so lucky????

Is it from following the advice of the wonderful people on here?

I will say so!!!

PEOPLE! He is NOT RESPONDING! How wonderful! I am overjoyed!!!!

No rants! He wrote me 1 little tiny appropriate email.

Now look, I know better than to get my hopes up to think that the ranting emails have stopped for good. Really. I know better. But OH MY look at this!!! A whole Lot Of Nothing is A Beautiful Thing.

Celebrate! LC! LC! LC! LC!

Here's the link to how it's been going in the recent past:

http://www.lisaescott.com/forum/2012/01/16/reinterpret-crazy-email-decoding

Mar 1 - 8AM
Layla
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"Punishment" or "Other Supply"

....these are pretty much the only two reasons why he will go through a period of not contacting you....the silent treatment hurt you in the past, and he knows it, so he will use it....or he has a new prey he is working on, and as soon as that goes south or they get into a fight or something, he will contact you as "punishment" to her and supply to him.....it's all screwy and makes zero sense............. love~ Layla
Feb 28 - 4AM
abreva
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A short lived peace.

Well, I enjoyed it while it lasted, but it's over. Scrambled egg emails. Nearly 1000 words. Lies. Flattery. Needless b.s. In one of his emails he wrote a really creepy thing about how he "Chose" his soon to be wife to HONOR me?? EW. Yuck. And so what. He talked about her like he had Selected her out of a catalogue, which he practically did. It's not about HER. He said some grandiose things about his life - that was a reminder of how he used to talk, where everything is blown out of proportion. A big house is a Mansion, for example. Creepy. I ignored all of that. But the custodial issues I can not ignore. I will not ignore.
Mar 1 - 8AM (Reply to #7)
janemarie
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They come in waves.... I

They come in waves.... I think the same sometimes....but then it passes and I get bombarded again with nasty stuff..... This is where boundaries come into play!!! Im learning and trying my best with boundaries...hopefully things will get better! they run hot and cold.... they run in cycles..... inconsistant, unpredictable, and contradictory
Mar 1 - 7AM (Reply to #6)
Hunter
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Idiot.. Get a middle man to

Idiot.. Get a middle man to deal with custodial issues.. Hunter
Feb 27 - 10AM
GeorgiaGirl
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He knows you are "on" to him

and this is a very good thing. Remember to document every time he doesn't respond. This is gold for future court visits! Great job...you rock, momma!
Feb 27 - 9AM
ordinarycourage
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Better the ST

than an STD! Nobody can write a long-winded, ranting note like a narc. My therapist told me to read them for information and throw the rest in my mental garbage can.
Feb 27 - 7AM
Sparrow
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What is he not responding to?

What is he not responding to? Your attempts at contact? Be very careful right now, the Silent Treatment is a form of punishment, the greatest form. You may be elated today, but tomorrow may be another story, and the setbacks can be devastating. If he has not "responded" I get the feeling that you tried to get him to? Please be careful..........
Feb 27 - 8AM (Reply to #2)
abreva
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Maybe I'm using the wrong word?

Hi Sparrow! I'm a little confused by your post. Maybe I'm using the wrong word? What I mean is that he isn't ranting. And he isn't responding. I want NOTHING to do with the EXNH-Psychopath and communicate only regarding custody issues. We are obligated to communicate due to custody. But I am elated right now because he's not responding NEEDLESSLY, and in this case, so far, not at all. I wrote him about a couple of issues -- very short, only the facts, very LC -- and in the past he would rant and rage, instead of just doing what was needed -- and I'd have to read all of it. YUCK. It's been 36 hrs and so far -- nothing. It's glorious! I've learned to celebrate everything that there is to celebrate -- I know that he'll keep trying to punish me -- but I take the victories that I can get. :) Abreva