Holleegirl's Story

After reading this again, I am all over the place and it doesn't read as if he is a Narcissist but he is. It is so very hard to put everything that happened into words. It all seems so different when you write it out compared to how it plays in your mind. The shorter I try to make it, the longer it becomes. I apologize in advance for the read! :)

I almost decided against posting my story because it seems they are all the same. About a week ago after being verbally attacked, I decided to research what was wrong with ME. Oddly enough, that is how I came across the word "narcissist."

I met my "life ruiner" about 5 years ago. Typical story at the beginning, however, he lived about 9 hours away. Thanks a lot Myspace! Karma got you back for me ha ha He came to visit me a few times and I was NOT REMOTELY attracted to him at all. One day he asks me on the phone "Would you date me if I lived there?" Well, being the wimp I am, I couldn't bring myself to be honest so I just said "I am sorry, I don't do the long distance thing." Alas, a week later guess who was at my door with a suitcase? You guessed it. His charm and his persistence told me that he was really interested in ME and didn't want just sex etc. After about 3 months, I agreed to be his girlfriend.

When this all happened, I was doing really well for myself. I had my own house, good job, car etc. I was good prey. But I was selling my house at the time and I told him that once my house sold, I was moving back in with my parents. So my house didn't sell for about 3-4 months. During that time, he did nothing to help pay for ANYTHING, even after finding a job. Aside from living off me, things were good for quite a while. I mean PERFECT. Asked me to marry him a million times... no ring of course. So my house sells. I was unhappy with my job and with my house selling, I was moving even FURTHER away. So he begged me to quit my job... he'd take care of me. I quit my job. So we end up getting an apartment about 2 blocks from my parents house. Of course, instead of living with my parents I ended up living with him. Things were good. Then he started bitching that I didn't have a job!! Telling me he "has one fat bitch hes paying for to sit on a couch, he doesn't want another." I was carrying my weight.. buying groceries and such. Then it just seemed like all he did was start fights with me. Over things that made no sense. We'd eat at my parents to save money... then he started complaining about always going there. Then he just started complaining about everything. He would come home from work and instantly turn on the stupid Playstation. Completely ignore me. Then he got worse. Told me to buy my own toilet paper since I use more than he does. haha that was the best. So he started whining about how he missed home, missed his family etc. One day he was great, next he was the devil. The lease was coming due and he told me he was going to renew it. The day before it was up... he decided he was going back home. He went to work leaving me to move all my stuff out in the pouring rain all alone. The next day, he was gone. All the while telling me he loved me.

The next 2 years consisted of him texting, calling etc for me to move there with him. I didn't want to leave my family so I refused. I visited him often, went on vacation with him and his family a few times. I still wouldn't move. So I just kept asking him to leave me alone. To say goodbye and end it so we could both move on. He refused. When I would ask for him to say good bye or promise to never contact me again he would say "I won't ever quit. I wont ever give up." or he'd just send back "never."

Over the course of time, I found out about his lies. His family knows what he is so they tell me the truth.

Then POOF! One day, everything stopped. No texts, no calls.. nothing. For one whole year he was gone. I finally got my life going again. I graduated college. I was just over it and feeling better. Then....

I get the text. He was/is with someone. Well I guess things weren't going so well. So we'd text on and off. I think for at least a year. So he calls me one night. They broke up. Of course he was all over me. 2 weeks later, his mom tells me they got back together. Why you ask? SHE IS PREGNANT. Ok yeah I died. He says it's true and he only went back to try to make it work for the baby. So I was like ok fine whatever. FINALLY got the closure I was begging years for that he would never give. But he kept texting me... I guess we were just trying to be friends. I had gone to visit his family during this time. While I was at his moms he "surprisingly" stopped by. He knew I was there. I went into shock because I really didn't want to see him and he was still with her. His mom wants us together. so I kept getting the texts about how good I looked when he saw me there. Whatever.

Fast forward to about 2 months ago. I'm out minding my own business and get a text from him. Then he called. She threw him out. AGAIN. Apparently she does this often because it's her house. She also has 2 kids. So he's telling me how he thinks about me all the time. He always wondered "what if" with us. That everything reminds him of me. etc. I fell for it hook, line and sinker. I was able to look past her, the baby etc. Why? Got me. Any other guy would've been kicked to the curb. So for two weeks he bugged me to come visit him. I just wasn't comfortable because his break up was so fresh and the last time, he ended up going back to her. So hell if I was about to put myself through that!

So after like a month of him texting "come claim what you say you want" crap like that. I started considering going there to visit. As I said, his mom wants us together so she was emailing me to come visit. So I went. This was about 3 weeks ago or so ago. The first night I was there he was good. The next day, we went to his dads and hung out. He was good then. Then the next day he turned into his crap self. Laying on the couch, ignoring me, playing with his stupid ass phone. Ignoring me like he used to. So I told him the next day I was going to go home. I was there about 2 days at this point. So the night before I told him that once I left it was over. So he got mad. Refused to say anything about anything. "you came all the way here just to say "fuck you?" It really wasn't my intention but based on how he was with me.. I just felt it was time to be over. I guess I felt I deserved a little more attention. I deserved for him to show me he really wanted to be with me again. He didn't. So he begged me to stay another day and I figured ok fine. He had to work so I visited a friend I had there. That's a whole different story I didn't even tap into! So the next day I decided to leave. He really didn't give me a reason to stay. I told him once I left I wanted nothing more to do with him. I blocked his texts. That last a whole 2 days before I unblocked them.

I know I'm skipping stuff here and things don't seem to match up LOL My brain is all over the place.

So he kept texting me and it was just tense. His birthday was coming up and I flat out asked his mom if they got back together. She said that they were talking, things were better and she was going to see him on his birthday. So I got upset about it. I kept telling him I knew they were back together and to leave me alone. That I wanted my closure. I wanted him to say goodbye and PROMISE NEVER to talk to me again. I am too weak to do it alone. He wouldn't. So about 2 weeks ago, he starts texting me with crap "who are you telling our business to!" I was like huh I have no clue. So he's yelling at me on the phone to keep his name, his gf's name and his babys name out of my mouth etc etc. He started calling me a "negative psycho." etc. he never called me names before. THAT WAS IT. I draw the line at name calling. So he calls me. I told him I wasn't telling anyone our business. Only his family! He got the reaction from he wanted. None of it made sense! he wouldn't tell me what I supposedly said and who I said it to. Just didn't make any sense. So I'm on the phone with him and he finally chills out. So I told him I wanted to end it like adults. He refused to do it. So I said I would go first to give him and idea of what I was looking for when I'd ask for closure. So I told him i cared for him, wished him the best in life blah blah. He started yelling saying he wasn't going to say that "crap." I told him it was like a break up. He starts yelling that "We broke up two years ago!!" So i was like "Yeah so it should be easy!" so he starts going on and on about how he has to go. He has to shower etc. So I made him promise to call me back after. He could think about what he wanted to say while he was in the shower. Surprisingly enough, he called back but didn't say anything about good bye etc. So I gave up. We hung up.

Next morning I get a text about football (We're both big football fans.) I answered normally. He didn't respond.

A few months earlier I had sent him a letter. Right about the time I found out his gf was pregnant. He told me flat out he didn't read it. Jerk. So I text back that I found a copy of the letter I wrote, that I was gonna send it again. He sends back "K." I told him not to throw it away and to READ IT. He ignored me. I HATE being ignored and he was doing that a lot over the month. So I text him that at that moment i wanted our no contact to begin. That as long as I was alive, I never wanted to hear from him again. He sends back something about football. I responded with "goodbye my dear." So he sent a couple texts that night which I ignored. I sent the old letter I wrote, along with a new one which said good bye. I sent old pictures of us telling him I couldn't bring myself to throw them away. So I sent them so he could do it. So I didn't hear from him for like 4 days. I didn't contact him either.

So Friday morning I get a text "Why did you send your pics?" I ignored him. That Friday night my phone rings. I didn't answer. Called again I didn't answer. So he starts texting me "call me asap we need to talk." I ignored all of it so he kept it up and up. So I text back "we have nothing to discuss." so we got into this huge text war about who I told we went to his dads house while I was there visiting. It made NO SENSE AT ALL. So we spend hours in text arguing over who I told. Apparently his "ex" found out. Yet again, NONE OF IT MADE ANY SENSE. I told him he needed help. To leave me alone... never to contact me again. I had nothing more to say to him and it was OVER. He never responded. Then 2 hours later, I get a text of a sexual nature. I respond with "are you serious... that's all you have to say in parting?" He came back with some crap acting like nothing ever happened. I said I was done. He never text back.

So I haven't heard from him since. About a week now. I'm sure he is back with her. But he is always good at waiting long enough to contact me knowing when I will answer.

So there is my story. I know it's a difficult read, Sorry about that! My brain moves faster than my fingers.