His birthday and anniversary today
His birthday and anniversary today
Hi All,
I am 5 months NC with this man who almost destroyed me. I have been doing pretty good lately. After almost 3 years of this Narc revelation and crazy off/on crap. I am getting myself back and know exactly who and what he is.
But Today..NOT SO MUCH...It is his birthday. I always made a huge deal out of it, with him, with his 3 kids that I helped raise. I had "birthday week". It would also be our 11 year anniversary. Its so weird over 8 years of the best years of my life and then 3 of the worst. I miss my father in law. I miss the kids :(
Heres my problem:
I am ready to start bawling...can barely contain myself. I know logically everything about the how and why..... but I am so very sad today. I keep repeating to myself
"he doesnt care about you, you CANNOT care about him"
"hes not thinking about you, STOP thinking about him"
I wish I could forget about him. I wish I wouldnt think about he and OW.
I was even with him on his b day last year because he was sad and lost. And no one was there for him. But I was. And that was after the hellish couple years with Ow in the mix.
It is SO ironic that the very thing he blamed/ accused me of .."You werent there for me"
..(his favorite excuse.... of why he cheated, his excuse of why he needed her, his excuse of why he threw away our whole life and me)
ironic that on his birthday when he was all alone...who was there for him? ME!
Its so funny how they brainwash us. I was always there for him and he made me believe I wasnt.
He was using me and I knew it. And I let him. I thought I was being kind.
Whatever..
I just want this day to be over because..
I..am sorry...and embarassed to admit.....
I actually miss him. I miss all the great years.
I have learned my lessons. I am wiser and stronger...
BUT I miss the relationship i had with the bid facade of a man.
Over a decade of my life.
Cant wait for wednesday.
PS I wore my key necklace that my girlfriends gave me for my 40th b day...because It took me SOO LONG to get my heart back....I almost have it back..
but not today.
:(
BFT, I am sorry you still
Better today!!
Something about their
Mine too
i agree...
Baking, you have come so far
Sparrow...
5 months seems to be when we
PS
If you miss your Father In