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#1 Aug 15 - 2AM
borderline
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he's good. he's really good.

he's always talking about "truth" like i am not hearing things right. like its all in my mind and all along he is been so honest. and how i'm so confused. i must not have heard those lies correctly. when he can't pull on my emotions he makes me doubt my logic.

he emailed me all this crap. please help me stay no contact.

this is my mantra: "he only wants you back so he can hurt you again"

Aug 15 - 3AM
ACgirl
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Stay NC. You know in your

Stay NC. You know in your heart you must. I made that mistake so many times and broke NC and got D&D'd even worse each time. You can't imagine how much I regret doing that. It is so much more powerful to STAY NC. So much more powerful. You need to keep your dignity and self respect. I write this to you as much as I need to hear it for myself. These men are not worth it. We are worth it. I wish I can turn back the hands of time, but since I can't do that, the best I can do is to remind myself and you that we must move on. They will NEVER change. And if they could change, the ONLY hope would be if we keep NC. Maybe then and only then will they feel the sting of their bullshit. They hate NC, so we must give it to them. That is the ONLY way. Please stay strong. We are here for you. xoxoACgirl
Aug 15 - 3AM (Reply to #5)
Arwen
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ROCK ON AC GIRL! She's

ROCK ON AC GIRL! She's RIGHT! Keep your dignity! I lost mine so many times breaking NC and regret it so terribly. Don't repeat our mistakes! we love you
Aug 15 - 3AM (Reply to #6)
borderline
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thank you

i love the support i am getting here. you are all wise, wonderful women.
Aug 15 - 3AM (Reply to #7)
Arwen
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And so are you Borderline!

And so are you Borderline! And don't you forget it! You just keep coming back here and we will keep each other straight and on the path to love and health and goodness we deserve. SLEEP NOW
Aug 15 - 3AM
Arwen
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Borderline don't fall for

Borderline don't fall for that bullshit gaslighting...you wouldn't be writing this post if you really believed what he has said to you. I think you are reaching out for help simply because you just need the strength to go NC, period. It is SO hard I know. G-d I know. But you said it yourself...he will hurt you worse every time you do break NC. Ask anyone here including me. Think of yourself, think of your health. Keep saying to yourself: I am worthy, I am beautiful, I did not deserve to be hurt in any way shape or form, it hurts me and I don't like how it feels, I am worth working for, I am worth love and respect, I am alive, I can choose to keep myself safe, I can make my own decisions in this life, I am wonderful!!
Aug 15 - 3AM (Reply to #2)
borderline
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you're right

i don't believe a word of it. it IS hard but i deserve better. thank you. i want to read those things every day.
Aug 15 - 3AM (Reply to #3)
Arwen
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I know honey. I know you

I know honey. I know you don't believe a word of it. You just want the contact. I could cry thinking about how much I can relate to what you are feeling. But I am crying a lot less now - actually, hardly at all, since being NC. And those affirmations really do help. Goodnight darlin.