HELP! I AM STUPID! I knew it was coming cos I still open myself up to it...
HELP! I AM STUPID! I knew it was coming cos I still open myself up to it...
I opened myself up for more attack again today.
I am the weakness he despises in me today…
I felt to depressed to move this morning. My three year old was jumping on me begging me to get out of bed but I weak, tired, strained.
I work so much and my job is demanding and when I am work I am putting on the best show I can. Inside I am breaking all the time.
He twists and turns my thoughts. I feel confused and screwed.
Today I feel like I cant even breathe properly.
He walsed into my house like he still lives here. I let him do it.
I have confused the situation with access to our son because I am a mess.
I can’t manage anything right now let alone negotiations with him.
I am not gardening or tending to my chores, but just barely managing to make good food for my son and wash him. I failed to even clean his teeth today and its so fucked up to be so tired you cant care enough to make sure your son cleans his teeth. I love my son dearly and I try to be the best mum he has, he goes to great school and bf him in to toddler hood and co slept and given my son everything love could give… But lately I am next to useless. .
So when my husband gets here and surveys the situation he looks at me with contempt…
Questions are launched in between me walking away from him.
‘What has my son being doing with his day’, asking to see the child’s drawings, checking up us, when my son can produce barely few more drawings that the ones he did yesterday I feel like I am on the stand in court. He then asks me to what we have done today over and over. Makes it into an inquisition.
I feel sick in my stomach, the attack has arrived. Subtle at first but more overt as it moves along. I had been dreading it all day.
I knew by the very fact that I am so drawn to dwell in place of mourning. He would come and see me and attack that in me.
He told me I needed to get it together for our son.
He is right on that front, but what he doesn’t get as most of the time I am drilling through, tough as old boots, being mum, Gardner, cleaner, cook, adviser to disabled people, some with some pretty intense mental health issues. I am always working hard but sometimes I just fall into a pit of self -destruction. I wish I had some one kind to just hug me a bit or something.
I wanted him to just come round and take his son to the park to help me so I could have a break, but instead I opened myself up to his attack.
Yesterday I was sitting in a pub with a fiend, the first evening I have been out in ages, he calls half an hour after meeting my friend, to say, ‘plans have changed’, he needs to work, child doesn’t want to go to his house, I have caused it and to come home, I have to come back to get our son. I have no choice and have to leave.
I feel totally sick, manipulated still.
I am exhausted.
I have finally lost the will to live.
I though it was better to face the attack tonight and have someone anyone to take my son out to run around than my son be subjected to me, my self pitying exhaustion until his bed time..
I am a bored of myself, self-pitying pathetic person I have become.
I wonder if I have any real friends left because of my misery story.
I hate being trapped in this non-life with narc husband.
Alas I am broke financially and have no means to get out.
I vowed to get some legal advice if I Can?
It needs to be a priority.
I must make more effort to get out of this dark stale death stench I call my life.
My son does need me to be healthier.
I am failing him.
Maybe even Narc husbad was right to tell me I was out of order but it’s the way he used our son to do it. I felt humiliated and he got our baby to discuss in detail what he had done with his day. Until the child was playing the game too.
Its twisted and screwed and I afraid.
I am so afraid!!!!
Vix you have got to pull it
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)
Vix you have got to pull it
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)
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Thanks scoop! Thanks do
Vix
P.S.
NinjaGirl is RIGHT!!!
Thanks so much for your kindness
Vix
Oh I wish I was there to
Sweetie
Vix,