Hello fellow parents

It is very tiring at times co-parenting with an N, sorry to hear you are in this boat too. It is so very unfair on our children, they are the innocent ones being manipulated by the N parent. My x is either a hero or a demon, he lifts up their spirits only to crush them soonafter - such is his lust for control at all costs. I hate this man beyond belief or should I say I hate narcissism. I do believe righteous anger can be beneficial to us though - the ones who were once trampled by these idiots, used abused and spat out, now it is time for us to build our self esteem and our boundaries to be super strong - to become N proof! They really are quite predictable creatures, they have two modes seducing or bullying, when one tack doesn't work they switch to the other. What we need to do is remain firm consistently, that will in turn teach our kids how to deal with them too. I look forward to reading your story when you are up to posting it. It is so very important for us co-parents to share with each other. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "The deeper that sadness carves into your being, the more joy you can contain." ~ Kahlil Gibran "That which we do not confront in ourselves we meet as fate" ~ Carl Jung http://www.storyofmylife.com/KLARITY4

Welcome.......i have a 19yr old from previous relationship..and 3yr old with N.....he's overly doting on our daughter to prove to everyone that he is the BEST father! It's so creepy to me,and everyone in town falls for this...anyway,i guess overly doting is better than the opposite,so i'll take it...good luck with parenting,it's tough......but,i swear the least amount of contact with N is the best:)

Welcome to the board! I wanted to respond because I do have a child with my exN and though he D & D us for 15 years (!) it is still challenging dealing with him now that he is back. I actually told him recently to dish it out to me (someone your own size), but leave our son alone. They are such control freaks (and everything else) and it is difficult having to watch our children be bewildered and hurt by their behavior. I have to remind my exN over and over again that HE is the adult and to quit acting like he is 6. I am sorry that your children must endure the parenting of an N. If we can support you in anyway just ask. I posted my story 3 weeks ago, and it was hard and freeing at the same time. I encourage and support you in doing the same. Anyway, welcome, welcome. We are here for you. xoxo