He was taking advantage, wasnt he?

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#1 Feb 9 - 4PM
Lookonthesunnyside
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He was taking advantage, wasnt he?

Ive been remembering a lot of things about our relationship, but one thing I remembered is that he told me he caught me "touching myself in my sleep" a couple times. This came up after one night I vaguely remember waking up to his hand going down my underwear, and me using my hand to block it and stop him. Somehow in my unconsciousness I still knew it was wrong I guess, and he was trying tp pry my fingers away but I was forcefully holding my hand down. Then he said "you were touching yourself in your sleep" and I said "no i wasnt!" and rolled over and went to bed. The next day I brought it up and he said he had been "woken up" by me making noises and touching myself. And then made a point of saying a couple of days later that I had done it again.

Ive never been told by anyone in my life that I've done this, not even my other ex I dated for 2 and a half years. And how would he be woken up by this...I would have had to be being pretty loud. And even if I was, HE was the one trying to shove his hand down my underwear, and I was trying to block him.

Its just so sickening to think about. Did he actually wait until I was asleep and try this? Once when he was drunk and thought I was sleeping he started jerking off beside me and grabbed my ass...so maybe he did this more times than I know. *shudder*

So he was clearly trying to take advantage of me and when I woke up turned it on me saying that I was touching myself, right?

The sickest indicator....I once found porn that he had DOWNLOADED, that was a guy having sex with a girl (sex AND oral sex) while she pretended to be asleep the ENTIRE time. And it was from the guy's point of view. There are entire sites devoted to that sick rape fantasy fetish.

How fucked in the head are these people..my god.

Did you guys experience anything like this??

Feb 12 - 7AM
ruby01 (not verified)
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Read up

Read up on gaslighting.
Feb 11 - 11PM
Im_always_fine
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OMG! The NARC/pimp has

OMG! The NARC/pimp has accused me of masturbating in my sleep!! We got up one morning and he was *acting mad. I was, "What's your problem?" He would say things like,"Did you have a good time?" I was like, "What?" He kept making veiled comments. Finally I told him that if he couldn't just SAY what ever was bothering him to STFU about it. So he got all raged, "YOU WERE FINGERING YOURSELF IN YOUR SLEEP!! YOU HAD AN ORGASM!! WHO WERE YOU DREAMING ABOUT?!" "THE HELL I WAS!!" NO WAY. NEVER happened. He fought me on it. So I grilled him on exact details...was I on my back? My side? Which hand? Because I KNOW me. And how I "get there" It's pretty specific. Yeh...no...he had it ALL wrong. Besides I'm a mom with a little guy who sometimes climbed into my bed in the middle of the night(back then he was 9) That was always in my subconscious. So NO WAY. Also I was with my kid's dad for 14 years and he never accused me of anything like that. And I was with the BF before the NARC/pimp for 5 years...nothing like that ever came up. What a fight! ANOTHER fight over NOTHING!! NOTHING. LIAR. I asked him once,"Does that hurt?" He asked,"What?" I said, "Pulling stuff out of your ass like that?!"
Feb 9 - 8PM
broken1994
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I often wondered if he wasnt

I often wondered if he wasnt masterbating while I slept..Im a dead sleeper and tried to stay up a few times just to see but didnt. I was horrified when I found out that having so much porn and masterbating to it is there thing, its a wonder he couldnt ejaculate with me. I brought this to his attention so than he had to show me that he could of course cause he couldnt be wrong. I just wish I would have realized these signs prior. Very odd individuals and like everyone Im still on having good days and bad days. Hope I helped some??
Feb 9 - 8PM
nomoredenial
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yep

He did this to me and it was always somehow my fault
Feb 9 - 8PM
Redhead
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You should've told him that

You should've told him that of course you were touching yourself & the best sex was always after he left the room.
Feb 9 - 8PM (Reply to #5)
shock and awe.some (not verified)
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OMG

that is too funny
Feb 9 - 6PM
Lookonthesunnyside
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ahhhh

Oh god! How would we not wake up though??? I wake up if someone walks into my room. I dont get it. Do you think maybe your ex was just saying this or did you believe him? God, Im so sorry. What a sicko. Now Im worried about every guy I made out with and passed out beside!! Why are some people SO creepy and violating?
Feb 9 - 5PM
whitneywolf
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Sorry

Sorry to say I've read somewhere that sleep rape is not uncommon for Ns, though i can't quote the source, so... Mine sometimes boasted that he was going to do this to me once I was asleep and once told me, after I'd taken a nap, that he had done it and my body had loved it without my knowing. Truly creepy.
Feb 9 - 5PM
Hunter
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How fuck up are these

How fucked up are these people?. VERY FUCKED UP,,, Sick freaks.. Remember this when you have a CD moment.. Hunter