He placed personal ad on Craigslist - Classic NPD stuff

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#1 Jun 7 - 10AM

Thunderbolt

He placed personal ad on Craigslist - Classic NPD stuff

So I am stuck living with Mr. N until sometime in July.

For all intents and purposes, he believes that I still want to date him and that we are still technically in a relationship of nearly two years.

He dumped and devalued me a while back and since then it's been a back and forth of sweet "pretend guy" morphing into slick saracastic somatic NPDness.

After a calm peaceful weekend, I discovered he placed a new personal ad on craigslist.
I think I believe in intution now. It was strange how I found the ad.
Something came over me and out of the blue I started typing in catch phrases he uses in the Craigslist personal ad search.

I found an ad posted monday.
He lists himself as 3 years younger to boot !

I'm posting this because it seems classic NPD in every way.
Ironically he really is smart, attractive , can cook great, but the way he terms things is pure n.
aND OF COURSE HE IS A DIRTY SNEAKY TWISTED nutcase who is posting personal ads when he has a live in girlfriend.

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Well I have to I nearly have it all.

Definitely good looking and an accomplished professional; I hit the gym 5 times a week.

I'm an intelligent man who is able to cook better than you can.

What am I looking for ?
I find kind, petite-framed girls from 5- 5"2 most attractive.

Simply put, I am a single white male ISO petite, thin/slim Single white or asian female.

Lookswise, I'm 6 feet tall, in good shape, brown hair w/ hazel eyes.

I am curious if anybody on here there matches this description & has a level head on her shoulders?

And I am no creepster, don't live with my parents (own my own house)
So, please do not be a creeper yourself.

To avoid unsolicited emails, put something real in your subject line.

#2 Jun 7 - 8PM

michele115 (not verified)

I have nothing agains Asians

But I suspect that these mysogynists believe Asian women are easier to subjugate...

#3 Jun 7 - 2PM

Thunderbolt

To be honest. I've replied

To be honest. I've replied twice now to the ad he placed... no reply yet. i crafted a couple of imaginary girls. strange he isn't biting ...... ------------------------------- anyway, I just applied for a great part time job that would net me around 2000 in 10 days worth of work. fairy dust and warm prayers needed that I get this work ! it's also for an awesome cause. selling products to benefit animals that are on verge of going extinct !

#4 Jun 7 - 2PM (Reply to #17)

Deidre40

Good luck to you with your

Good luck to you with your applying for that job!! Hope you get it. :=) And hahaha @ you posing as an interested woman...hahaha This should be good. Pass the popcorn. ;)

#5 Jun 7 - 2PM

Thunderbolt

To be honest. I've replied

#6 Jun 7 - 2PM

snarky174

Therapy or Not...

It would be hysterical if we all started answering... the adds... women united to stop the nuts... like oooh your profile matches everything I am looking for you wonderful hunk of butter.... then... basically after a few teasers - just send a stock- we know who you are and what you are about - and a link to a local psychotherapist? ;-)

#7 Jun 7 - 3PM (Reply to #14)

beamoflight

ohhhhh

meeee likey likey!

#8 Jun 7 - 2PM

Deidre40

should have known

LMAO! This is the same schmuck who got you to pay his water bill? OMG. Whatta joke. They are total jokes. Do they not see how stupid they are?????

#9 Jun 7 - 2PM (Reply to #12)

SHOULD HAVE KNOWN

I signed for him to have his

I signed for him to have his water turned on. But, I have taken my name off that account. So that's one thing I won't be responsible for. I know he will never make it on his own. He's too irresponsible with money to ever be able to keep up with paying his rent and other things. When I met him, he was living with his best friend and his wife. He gave me a sob story about wanting to move out so when his son come to visit, the son would have his own room. And me being the people pleaser and helper that I am gladly obliged. Wow, I worked my but off finding him furniture at yard sales and flea markets. Oh, I even helped decorate this house. When he's online he talks about how he's got his house all put together. If only they knew, it was all me. I have to admit, it does look good. He didn't have any taste. (sorry, I have to be sarcastic to keep from getting mad.)You can't turn back time and you defiantely learn from experience. If I meet a guy and he asks for me to buy him a glass of water, I'm running in the other direction.

#10 Jun 7 - 12PM

bcquilts2

Mine also put an ad out there

Mine also put an ad out there while I was still in the house. I know because when I came back after being gone for 2 1/2 weeks over the holidays I found photos of strange women on the computer (as did our 16yo son - he actually brought it up to me). I don't know what the content of his ad or ads was, but I could make a pretty good guess - he also has a "laundry list" of traits and characteristics that he's looking for, and whoever most closely fits the job description is the one he targets. When M took the OW to a business meeting last March, he introduced her as his fiancee' and told his co-workers they'd met online, so I know I'm right. While I didn't see the personal ad he wrote, I did find notes he made on New Year's Eve about his first wife - how she was the first one he thought of, and perhaps she'd been the love of his life all along. Then followed a list of everything he could offer her if she would only come back to him. Now mind you, we were married for over 17 years, and this woman loathes him and he treated her horribly, both during their marriage and afterwards - I know, I saw what he did, and he's treating me the same way now. I actually have an email that his exwife sent me last December, where she says that M treated her like just another appliance while they were married. Which correlates to my feeling of being the housekeeper that he slept with. He actually tried to contact her through their daughter, but she refused - smart woman. However, the jury's still out on whether the current mark is being scammed, or if she's scamming him - wouldn't that be poetic justice? One can dream... LOL

#11 Jun 7 - 12PM (Reply to #10)

SHOULD HAVE KNOWN

Mine has his on POF. It's

Mine has his on POF. It's says he's not looking for a sugar moma, because he has such a good job. (Couldn't pay his bills, always getting me to loan (GIVE) him money.) Not looking for drama (he's nothing but drama). Easy going and honest (please does N even know what these words mean?) Just an all around good guy! I'm tempted to get in touch with some of the women he's talking to and let them know who he really is, but they wouldn't believe me. I wouldn't have believed anyone that tried to tell me anything. You just live and learn.

#12 Jun 7 - 12PM

beamoflight

hi

how do you know it's his ad? Advice?

#13 Jun 7 - 1PM (Reply to #8)

SHOULD HAVE KNOWN

His pic is on there. And

His pic is on there. I met him on POF. Should have run the other way.

#14 Jun 7 - 11AM

Deidre40

This is frightening to me.

This is frightening to me. I'll tell you why. My ex has an ad up, that I found. Wish I didn't go exploring, but curiousity killed the cat, as they say. ;) Anywho...it's very very similar to yours, here. He says 'real' in his profile, too. He says...''I'm not doing this or that for you, so keep looking if that's what you want.'' haha It's like the worst profile I've ever read. To compare (I'm not familiar with dating sites) I looked at other men's profiles, and they were like...I like to play tennis, I consider myself outgoing, I'd like to be with someone who enjoys the outdoors like me, I'm funny, so I'm told, etc... His? Was like ...angry, demanding...a literal laundry list of what he wants in a girl. Says he's been in so many bad relationships (and marriages, oops, he forgot to add he's been married 4 (hundred) times :=P) I don't know if there are any good women out there anymore. So, he plays the victim. He acts arrogant. Says he has a 6 pack (that he is telling the truth about)...I mean...what woman in her right mind would go for this type of profile? I am sorry you have to live with such a jerk right now! Prayers that you can make it to July, with sanity in tact! {{hugs}}

#15 Jun 7 - 11AM

Hunter

I have one word! LOSER! The

I have one word! LOSER! The goat fits that description, don't you think! Bahbah! Hunter

#16 Jun 7 - 11AM (Reply to #2)

Thunderbolt

I think in one way finding

I think in one way finding this has really helped me. I's making me view him as someone who is insane/crazy/deluded. For a handsome looking and smart man to imagine he will find someone worthwhile on craigslist with an ad like that is deranged. "tossable" is a word he uses to describe what he finds attractive about women who are tiny/frail. one can toss them around in bed. So i see now there is something scarily off in his wiring. Yes, reading about NPD has helped a lot. But actually seeing HOW kooky his actions are is freeing.

#17 Jun 7 - 11AM (Reply to #3)

wacaet

I found out that mine has

I found out that mine has multiple ads on a.f.f.... He has a profile for every city he travels to for work, he's even on Asian friend finder since he get sent to Japan for work, too. Anyway, his is ALL about him and what he won't accept. He lies and says he's permanently relocating for work and looking for a ltr not just sex. Of course he fails to mention a. his wife b. all the other women he's using so sick and so typical of NPD

#18 Jun 7 - 12PM (Reply to #4)

SHOULD HAVE KNOWN

What is ff?

#19 Jun 7 - 12PM (Reply to #5)

wacaet

a.f.f. is adult friend

a.f.f. is adult friend finder it's a site for sex hook ups he says in his ads that he's skeptical about meeting someone from the site but hoping to cut through the b.s. that goes with dating this while he had me & ow on a string and a wife and god only knows who else! I forgot the best part, his ad says something about how he doesn't lie or play games to get what he wants and thinks you shouldn't have to at his age. It must have been opposite day when he wrote that!

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