He knew all along our relationship would end!

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#1 Jan 5 - 7PM
HardToBelieve
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He knew all along our relationship would end!

He knew very well! While he was scheming plans on how to upgrade the abuse he knew I was going to have enough one day. And this is what proves it to me that he has been left by alot of women who have reached boiling point, even when he claimed only he breaks up with them, not the other way around. According to him, the women come crawling back crying months later and wish he was the father to their newborn. Yeah, right. He wishes.

While we were together he specifically told me that he didn't want to talk about me to his friends or share any given information to them because he said ''when'' the relationship ends his friends are going to laugh in his face because this ''always'' happens to him when he gets carried away with a woman (and most likely treats them bad).

So instead of using the terms ''if'' we split up, he used the terms ''when''. The idiot saw this coming! Now I understand why he never wanted to introduce me to his friends. He either knew it wasn't going to last or he knew his friends would expose him and warn me about him.

Aha!

Jan 11 - 10AM
oceangirl
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on purpose

That is what I think, the abuse was on purpose. The abuse on my son was to control him, to get him to misbehave so that the NARC could control him further. I can't even think about it for very long, because it makes me feel sick, but it is true. Now THAT is true evil. Glad my son and I are safe! Yay us!
Jan 6 - 10AM
HardToBelieve
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Dismissed info.

Yes, I dismissed it. I found an excuse for it. I wish then I would have said something but I can't change the past. I can focus on my future and Im never going to accept crap like this anymore! First redflag and you are OUT!
Jan 5 - 9PM
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Wish I had a dime

For everything my N said that raised a red flag or presented a good clue that I brushed off or excused somehow. I'll be very wary of signs next time, will address the crap on the spot and set my boundaries upfront without apology or exception. I'll turn this pain into the best lesson I ever learned. Hope you do too. :)
Jan 5 - 9PM
Sparrow
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Hardtobelieve, we tend to

Hardtobelieve, we tend to dismiss the things they say, we even find excuses for them. All the while, in our gut, knowing something just isn't quite right. This is done by design. He used the word "when" to intimidate you, make you sweat, and work just a little bit harder than you already have, to please him. Be glad you are out of that relationship. Someday, you will meet someone that not only won't say "when", he won't say "if". Normal people don't talk like that. So glad you found the forum!
Jan 5 - 7PM
Dee30
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Hey

I wouldn't be surprised if the douche bag had NS lined up. Mine does, everything comes clearer day by day..his ex works in the mall she has since moved on to someone else. He occasionally hoovers her. She is prolly unaware of what he does but now that i know more i know what he was up to. I know he wants to keep me for NS or just incase his wife and he said so himself "doesn't understand HIM"...i think they know they always need supply to keep them feeling alive.. I refuse to be his supply..he can go screw himself...
Jan 5 - 7PM
Hunter
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Funny how when your in it ..

Funny how when your in it .. It just gets brushed off.. After all we've been through.. I feel sorry for the next narc encounter.. Oh wait.. there won't be one... Why because statements like that will now cause us to run like the wind.. We are no longer a suppliers .. :) Hunter