He hated it when I received praise

They are jealous of others for succeeding and will sabotage their child's develpment for their own sake. It is very good you are seperating yourself from this, and seeing that their attitudes are destructive, and strive to be around people who are simply happy, and want to help others and aren't intimidated. The N is intimadated by all sorts of people and situations, and their often react with jealousy and anger when it is uncalled for.

Well you certainly confirmed something for me, To this day I have doubts concerning my intellect, I could never pass a bar exam for law as you did but I am smart in other areas of my life. They dont care if you are smart and accomplished. I always thought mine would admire my musical talents almost becoming a classical pianist, ya right he could care less. In fact mine said we can lay you over the piano and have a man fuck you while I watch. Are you sure our narcs are not the same person, name begins with G? ha ha Unbelievable huh the similarities? And of course he had to throw in "can you play the organ", oh ha ha ha that is so funny like I havent heard that one before you moron, as a matter of fact I can play the organ but your organ is flat and doesnt work half the time, now isnt that funny, just as funny as your attempted sick humor. See how he ignored your accomplishments had to associate F---ing with everything dont they? I told him one time I was visiting a friend, he replied; "are you going to F---k, if so tell me all the details it gets me off, I will masturbate as you tell me". In fact I have a visual of mine that makes me laugh, I can see him standing behind bushes wacking himself as he watches the neighbor lady undress because she forgot to pull the shade down, that type, you know the type that educated, refined women go after, ha ha ha I know that turns me on, EWWWWWWWW and ISH!!!!!!!!!!!! I bring a video camera with me to the city and go get fucked after the first day of testing and videotape it and bring it home as a present....the continuation of a long harassment campaign on this topic (knowing that I come from sexual abuse as a child nonetheless, of course...) I too came from sexual abuse as a child before I was adopted. I think he knew that too and probably thought eww she is damaged goods (just like myself)I like those that have a hx of abuse, easy targets to control and manipulate. There was never penetration but there was sexual fondling. In fact my predator reminds me of my natural father, sexual deviate and quite capable of Ped File, I dont even like to say that word. Bluemoon yours was always asking you to have sex with another man so he could watch wasnt he? Mine was big time into that, What a great ending to our dream man huh? All the promises of a life time together and this is what he had to offer me in the end. Wow, you should be proud of yourself, passing your bar exam that is very tough, now sue him for intent of emotional injury or whatever the legal term is. Do you feel in some ways they rejected us because we never gave them what they wanted sexually? I know mine did, oh I am still on the back burner for back up supply and if I give him what he wants sexually I will be promoted to #1 supply, what an honor better get right on that. lol

The BAR exams are so tough that to pass on the firt try is a really high achievement. you should be very proud of yourself and that you did it after being away from school for 15 years is probably a first! I hope you are practicing you sound like a real natural as a lawyer.

Mine too, Junebug. He never said a word about directly what bothered him, but he would cause drama and rage. One of our biggest fights was because I joined a gym, I later found out. I had to go to a hotel that night and call the DV hotline. I almost moved to the shelter (I should have). He didnt know where I was all night and in the morning I called him and he said he didnt care where I was or if I ever came back. The N needs to be the center of attention and hates anyone who gets it instead of him. Even children.

Barbara that is such an awesome post,,,so eloquent,,and true I follow along to the 'Atlas Shrugged 'comment as well. They envy your great qualities,,so sad,,thinking that IT IS THE GOOD, THE CORE QUALITIES OF YOUR HUMAN BEING,,THAT YOU LIVE ON, OR CREATE OR ACT FROM.. this is your core, our survival,,your nucleus. They are after that nucleus,,and its destruction. My ex N used to say at All of our meetings "I can't stand to keep hearing about how good so and so did,," "I am sick of hearing so and so get all the credit" when in my mind,,they are doing good,,thank goodness!!! Someone is actually surviving in this world!! Halelulia!! Instead,,the pathological feels nothing but disdain and envy,,,like they are after them.. Very sad,,and so entirely destructive in so many ways.

They PATHOLOGICALLY do not like to hear or acknowledge anyone complimenting you (it could be the most innocent of compliments) or acknowledging your strengths. They feel odd pathological things when this happens like "I don't want anyone telling you this but me",, they freak out for real and explode and TAKE OFF on you for no reason. It seems irrational to you and I ,,but for them,,it is a reason to insult you and condem you for something you have never done. Confusing, and bullshit to say the least. I remember being at a work function,,some man,,much older than me commented that i had pretty hair. Well their left my date ( I was to stay at his house for the evening) and I was to drive off chasing him,,'why did you leave without me" Well there you go,,they refuse to acknowledge you for your stengths or good qualities,,so you will ultimately become a the opposite if around them,,void of identity,,have no concept of your abilities,,and miserable,,trying to lead a false life that you constantly wonder what the fkkk is wrong with this person..